Is it a curse to be born as a male?

 Is it a curse to be born as a male?

By
P.R.Ramachander

(This again is based on a great write up in Tamil my face book friend Hamsabai Santhaana Krishnan.I do not agree with it entirely as I feel that “Life is miserable to all who think like that”. I also feel that a woman’s life is much more miserable.)

1.The joy of one who was born,
AS a male is only till he reaches the teen,
For though he is the one whose birth is celebrated,
All his life he would face nothing but problems.

2.Till he completes first ten years of his life ,
He flies like a very independent bird,
Then the say , “Hey study well from now on,
If not , no college for you but only training Institutes.

3.When he joins the eleventh standard ,
His father warns him , “Hey boy ,
Work extremely hard for two years,
Otherwise it would be workshop not engineering.

4.After two years of hard work when he joins,
The engineering college, his father again warns,
“I did not inherit great wealth from my father,
So do not go on spending money like water.


6.After four years of day and night study,
Without enjoying any thing in life,
It would be meaningless if he does not get a placement,
For the shouting words of parents would make his life a misery.

7.They would say “It f you were a girl , it would not have mattered,
WE would have managed to buy you some ornaments,
And handed you over to someone, you are a man,
You have to earn money to clear the loan and ,
To give your sister in marriage in a good family.”

8.After one joins for a job , he becomes a small fish in a big town,
Very careful in spending money so that all the dreams of his family are realized,
He has to take food in a budget joint , travel in a rickety bus,
And act as if he was in the ocean of joy before his parents.

9.By the time the family loan is repaid, his sister is married off,
The parents would say , “How long will you eat,
The hopeless food in the worthless hotel,
You better get married to a nice little girl.”

10.Then comes the most miserable second part of his life.
If he shows love to his wife, mother feels miserable ,
And if he shows any interest on his parents says the wife,
“You are family man now , you have given them sufficiently ,
And it is time for you to start to plan for our future.”

11. He should not tell his problems of office in home,
Nor should he tell the misery in home to others,
And he would realize that desire is for 60 days and passion for thirty days,
And small differences in love life would become a raging war.

12.Bending and getting crushed when the voice of lady becomes loud,
Having lost hhis backbone as he is unable to say “no” to the wife,
Unable to neglect the parents, giving support to both sides,
He would keep on getting bad name from both as well as the world.

13.Then he produces kids so that his clan does not end,
Nurture them to become great and he gets the name of “miser”,
When he is not able to meet their needs and get a name,
“Morose face” if he is not able to smile when if he is called names like that.

14.He would buys good , costly and fashionable cloths for his family,
For any festival in house , but would search for “Buy one , take two”.
For buying his cloths and suppose after struggling to pay,
For presents and ritual needs in relation houses,
He takes loans and he would get bad dreams and bad name only.

15.If with all these botherations and problems riding over him,
Suppose he neglects to love his wife, she would wail,
“There is a man in my house who does not know that he has a wife”
And if some of his relatives or friends buy a new house or car,
She would yell, “I too got a useless husband who is good for nothing.”

16.If he shows love to his children, he is spoiling them,
Suppose he is n bothered to look after his old parents ,
She would say, “There are other children beside you to your parents.”
And to a man whatever he does will only earn him a bad name.

17.For carrying a child for nine months, She would be praised all her life,
But for carrying his family and its problems always in his mind,
There is no fame for him and he would be greatly happy,
If no one find faults with him. What a tragedy?

18.Inspite of all these if that poor man does indeed succeed,
There would be claims from his parents and his wife ,
Claiming that but for them this useless one,
Would never have succeeded in anything whatsoever.

19.All the joy of being a man is till he becomes a teen,
Afterwards , the ploughs kept on his neck,
Would always push him down to the earth,
And he has to sorrowing struggle to pull the burden, all his life