What SHE wants and what HE wants?

What SHE  wants  and what  HE  wants?

A  man  wrote :-

A wife  wants her husband   should be                                        Sincere

A wife wants  her husband to show  her                                      Affection

A wife   wants   her  husband      to show  her                             Love

A wife wants her husband to hear  what she says   with           Attention

A wife  wants her husnand  to treat  her   with                           Respect

A wife wants her  husband  to maintain  his                                Youthful look

In short   she  only wants  his SALARY

His wife   wrote back immediately

A husand wants  only to                                                               Blame

A husband   wants her always  to be                                          Efficient

A  husbands wants her  never to  be                                          Angry

A husbands always   wants    her to show                                 Understanding       

A husband wants her   always   to show                                    Tolerance

 A husband     wants   her   never  to                                          Yell                                           

In short  he wants only    her BEAUTY

Make these hormones flow and make your family happy

Make  these  hormones flow  and make your family happy

Compiled by

P.R.Ramachander

Endomorhins – produced  when you exercise- makes you  happy

Dopamines-produced  when some  one appreciates us-  makes us happy

Serotonins-produced   when we  help others- makes us happy

Oxytocin-produced  when we  are  close  to others-   we are happy

1,To be  happy yourself

Exercise,and work hard ,  get appreciated by family  and office , help others in family   as well any one who deserves  , love  all others

2.To make  your wife happy

1.encourage  her to work  2. Appreciate her frequently 3 make her to look after your/her parents  4. Love her  and purchase  all that  she loves

3.To make  your  child happy

1.Make him play 2,Appreciate him  3.Tell him   to help others 4 hug the  child

4.To  make  elders  in your home happy

1.Encourage  them to work  and partipate in  activities of home  2. Tell him/her  how great he is/ was  3.make them look after  their grand children 4. Tell him  that the family loves him/do namaskarams to him/get  things he loves

When age increases beyond sixty

When age  increases beyond sixty 

Translated  with little   freedom

From a Hindi  poem जब उम्र बढ़ जाएगी

By

P.R,Ramachander

When age  increases,

Instead of perfume , iodex smell  will come

If  some one   sends a  vehicle  , better go,

For Vechicles   may not come back

If  you  want to see, see now itself,

Later  eyesight will fail , you may not able to see them

Now   you have   friends with you,

Later  you may  see only a walking stick

When some   friends talk  , hear them now,

Later  even with machines  it would be tough

If you feel like  laughing better do  ,

Later  you will feel like crying  not laughing

When friends   Call  , better go,

Later  doctot  may not allow you to

Friends  , understand, please  understand,

This age where  you can move may not come back

Who are all bound to look after the aged old parents?

Who are all bound  to look after  the aged  old parents?

Compiled by

P.R.Ramachander

  

  In India   we had a notion that  , it is the responsibility  of the sons only to look after  their old parents. About a  few years ago  the high court of Mumbai , when approached  by old parents  ordered the daughter  to look after  her parents.

      A good news to  all such old people  .The Govt. off india has   brought a new law by which   the son in law   and daughter  in law   also have equal responsibility   to look after  aged  parents , apart from children adopted  as well as  step sons

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/children-in-law-will-also-be-responsible-for-care-of-aged/articleshow/72375817.cms

Who am I ?

Who am I ?

By

P.R.Ramachander

        I  am not  a philosopher. I am not trying  to answer whether  I am the body or   the soul

My father was living  in a village  called Chelakkara. He had purchased some land   and one house there.Once he asked ., “Konthe, do you know   who I am ?”

I said  “Ofcourse  ennodu  appa”(ofcourse  my father)

He then brought   the deed  of his purchase  of property    In both  deeds , he was  referred  as

“Para  desi  Brahmanan Puducottu  Rama Pattar  makan     Rama Pattar”  .My father told  he is  legally this  person and I am his son 

Then  he  explained

All  tamil  Brahmins   in Cochin state   were  referred   as  “Para Desi  Brahmanan “ to differentiate   them   from Nambudiris

Then it clearly indicated that my grand father was from a village called  “puducode” and it indicated  that my father   was from puducode,

Then it said we are  “pattars”-  the malayalm   word   for Tamil Brahmins.

I am son of that” Puthucode Rama Pattar,” which name   was changed to “Puthucode  Rama Iyer “when he went  out  of kerala.

Most  interesting thing is in my 80  years  of life  , I have  visited Puthucode  10 times   and have stayed  in Puthucode  for just  3 days

Never compare yourself to others

Never  compare  yourself to others

Never  compare  yourself to others

Translated from Tamil  by

P.R.Ramachander

There  was  a boy    from a  middle class family,

They all  struggled together   to send their son ,

To one  of the top computer  institution of the city,

And the boy also very happily  went and joined there.

Suddenly they   found that their son  was getting  tired,

He started getting angry  at every body  and he  started,

Absenting himself    from the classes and avoiding,

Doing the home   tasks    given by   the Institute

The father started   shouting him, mother  consoled father,

Went to the institute  , talked  with  the trainers  ,

And later one day she   watched   her son in the institute ,

Without  his knowing and she  had some inkling   about her son’s problem

The next day mother  took the son with her  to a marriage ,

Of their rich friend and both of them   sat  for a great feast.

There  were so many  wonderful items  including  dishes,

Which they have  not seen   at any time  in their love.

In the middle of the feast  , the mother stopped  taking the feast

And went away and the son  finished  his   food without any interest ,

Later  met his  mother  and asked  her , what happened  to her?

She said that  she was upset   and did not like   to eat  .

When the son insisted she told, “I had just  began the food,

Some people were  eating the sweets and some even completed it,

And  I felt bad   that  I am not  like  them  and  got away.

He asked  , “How can you be like every one  , some are slow  and some fast”

Son continued, “You should have eaten  in your own pace  ,

Never  comparing  yourself with others”   and the mother asked,

“Why are  doing  that  in your institute ?”  , Here  the food is  free,

And  there we pay  fifty thousand  per month”

The son understood and said, “Mummy  , from now  on,

I will not compare  myself   to others and I will work,

To my best  possible extent” Mother smiled  and said,

“I am hungry, I will take   the feast once more and come back”

Two verses from Vairagya Sathakam of Bharthru hari

Two  verses  from Vairagya  Sathakam  of Bharthru hari

Translated by

P.R.Ramachander

(samudhra guptha was a great king.He had four wives  , one from each caste. His eldest son Bharthru hari was from His hudra wife.In the death bed  Samudhra guptha  was seen crying.When Bharthru hari asked why, he told  that if his son from Shudra  wife gets a son, he will go to hell.Bharthru hari promised  that  he will not have a son. He married 1000 ladies  and practiced  family planning  .At that  time he wrote a  book called  Sringara  SAtakam( 100  verses  of love).Once  a  saint gave him  a very special sweetest mango fruit. Bharthruhari gave it to  the queen he most loved.In the evening , he saw that  one maid servant was carrying this special fruit keeping it on the top of her cow dung pot . When Bharthru hari made  enquirues, he found out that , his horseman was lover his  queen and so she gave the  fruit to him. The maid servant whom he saw was the lover of the horseman and so he gave it to her,

Bharthru hari took Sanyasa , gave the kingdom to Vikramadhithya   and went away  .After  taking Sanyasa  he wrote another  great book called  Vairagya SAtakam-0 the hundred verses of renunciation. These  two oft quoted verses    are from Vairagya Satakam)

आदित्यस्य गतागतैरहरहः संक्षीयते जीवितं
व्यापारैर्बहुकार्यभारगुरुभिः कालोऽपि न ज्ञायते ।
दृष्ट्वा जन्मजराविपत्तिमरणं त्रासश्च नोत्पद्यते
पीत्वा मोहमयीं प्रमादमदिरामुन्मत्तभूतं जगत् 

Though with the rising  , movement  and setting of Sun  Life  gets shortened,

With   the burden   several   day to day activities, we do not feel the passage of time,

And even seeing  birth , aging , accidents and death , fear  is not felt in the mind,

Drinking  the intoxicating  wine   of delusion, this world  has become insane.

आशा नाम नदी मनोरथजला तृष्णातरङगाकुला
रामग्राहवती वितर्कविहगा धैर्यद्रुमध्वंसिनी
मोहावर्तसुदुस्तराऽतिगहना प्रोत्तुङगचिन्तातटी
तस्याः पारगता विशुद्धमनसो नन्दन्ति योगश्वराः

There is a river called desire,  fancies of the mind   is its water, the thirst  for more are its waves,

It is filled with the terrible   fishes  of desire   and passion,

Argument and counter arguments puts a stop to its flow,

One wave of this  river uproots the tree of courage of man,

Desire and passion drags him     to the land of   complete ignorance,

And there he dashes   against  the rocky reefs   of thought 

And the great yogis  cross   this  river  with pure mind and meditation .