The Pancha Thanthra (five tricks) to get happiness from our life?

 The Pancha Thanthra (five tricks) to get happiness from our life?

Rewritten in English by
P.R.Ramachander

(Based on a write up in Tamil posted in whatsapp . Thanks to the author)

1. The important needs of a family happiness.
Without any doubt for happiness of the family income is needed,
Along with that are needed unity, humanity, hobby, appreciation and health,
Without any of which life would be drab as well as uninteresting,
Whether you get only income in tens or hundreds or thousands per day
Happiness of the family also depends on our maturity, children and mutual unity
For without maturity all the decisions that we take would be always wrong,
For without savings we would get crushed into a heap when sudden need for money is there.
For without children we would be living a meaningless and aimless life.
And without unity, the hell like family would be working at cross purposes.

2. What does a wife want from a husband?
A wife wants Him to love her, talk to her without wounding her and not to get angry
For these three qualities of HIM is the real essence of an ideal married life,
Further she wants him, not to find fault in her cooking, never shout at her in front of others,
For these her ego as a cook is hurt badly and as her ego suffers a jolt before her friends.
She wants Him to be on her side always, accompany her to functions,
For these give her inner confidence and makes others think that he loves her,
She wants him to consult her. Hear what she tells patiently and support her ideas,
For these make her feel that she is a capable home worker who has a part in running the home.
She wants him to appreciate her, take interest in family and talk to her without reservations,
For no one can live without appreciation and the other two makes her feel her happy,
She wants him to take her outside once in a month and also have an annual vacation.
For these two gives her a change from the drab routine of the humdrum of life.
She wants him not to hide anything from her, have belief in her and tell her all important things,
For these makes her feel that she is not just a home worker and nothing else,
She also wants him not to appreciate other ladies and be contended with her prettiness,
For she feels that her role as a wife to him is recognized by him and he loves her.
He should do small helps to her, fulfil her basic needs and love her as much as his mother,
For she feels that he has interest in her as a person who loves him without reservation,
She wants him to take timely food, tell her about guests before hand and also tell her where he is going,
For house management and care of him is considered by her as very important.
She wants him to remember her birthday, know her likes and that he should not dislike her family,
For these three things make her feel that he cares for her and also likes her family,
She wants him never to tell a lie and that he should give her pocket money,
Because if he lies she cannot believe him at all and it would be nice that she has money to spend.

3. What does a husband expect from his wife?
He wants her to wake up early and know about office and school timings and get him and children ready,
So that she can finish of all the chores of family and see that he is not late to office and children are not late to school,
He wants her to have a smiling face and be hospitable without bothering for time.
So that he is not worried that she is suffering and his friends like him to be hospitable.
He wants her to consider his mother as her own and also obey his house people,
For they are the people who like him and he wants her to keep them pleased,
He wants her not to find fault with males always, and not keep on ordering him about,
For if she finds fault with males, he may feel that she does not like him and ordering him about is not pleasant.
He wants her to work for peace and unity of his family and not tell about his faults to others,
Because he feels that she splits his family and all his faults told by her will make him unpopular,
He wants her not to suspect him, and be secretive about his family problems,
If she suspects him life would become miserable and her talk about problems would be misused by others.
He does not want her to talk about family problems as soon as he returns from office,
Because he would be already carrying with him the office problems and this would make him miserable,
He wants her to be in good terms with his family members and be contented with what they have,
For by doing that his family would support them in times of crisis and contentment brings happiness,
He wants her to have desires within limits and take interest in children’s education,
Because while contentment grants him happiness, Children’s education is the root of their future,
He wants her to limit family expenses within his income and desist from picking his pockets,
For large worries can be avoided by proper expenditure and he should not be taken aback by missing money from his pockets.
He wants her to tell him her wants in advance and help him in future planning of the family,
Because both these actions would bless him with serenity and peace,
He expects her tell everything that happened in day before retiring to bed,
Because this will keep him informed of the pluses and minuses of every day.
She should defend him in her parents’ home and have patience as well as humility,
For He does not want to be badly thought by in laws and these qualities makes his life happy,
He expects her not to interfere when he corrects the children and he expects her to cook all that he likes,
For once she interferes the children will not obey him and good food is a basis of good life,
He expects her to look nice when he comes home, talk clearly and have good general knowledge,
For he loves her much more when she is pretty and unless she has general knowledge she would not be respected,
He expects her to talk clearly, not buy unnecessary things and be a spend thrift,
For He wants to know her ideas and wants to save money for their mutual future.

4. The reasons for the reduction of happiness of a family
Frequent quarrels, finding faults of each other, not keeping one’s word,
Not able to get what one wants, lack of belief and faith in each other,
Inability to go on vacation trips, not providing mutual help, lack of guests,
Misplacing each other’s things, lack of cooperation in new ventures,
Lack of give and take, wounding each other by words As well as,
Inability to create happy situations makes the life of a family miserable.

5. Ten commandments to lead a happy life

1, Love each other and take interest in each other
2. Do more and more work with enhanced interest?
3. Talk sweetly avoiding words likes me and mine,
4. Try to understand , respect and praise each other,
5. Do each action with maximum energy,
6. Hear what others say and respond properly
7. Accept the faults of others and ignore them,
8. Be straight forward, humorous, timely and sweetly
9. Handle every person in the way that is most suited,
10. Do not judge a person in great hurry, just by one look.