Thursday, September 27, 2018

Some family conundrums

Some family  conundrums
(A feeble attempt  based on a    very pretty essay in tamil on கொஞ்சம் கவனிக்கவேண்டியவை.(Some things that  need to be cared  for by J.K. SIVAN. I hope he will excuse me)


1.Husband   is in a hurry to go  out  some where,
But wife    spends lots, lote and lots  of time ,
In dressing  , chatting almost  nothing with her friends,
And  Would not this   irritate   that  poor man.

2.He does not  bother to reduce AC  when  she feels cool,
He does not bother about his   sleep   while watching  TV news  loudly,
He  does not switch off  light , allowing her to   sleep,
Would they   not irritate her   who  has day of  hard work  ahead.

3,Men do not    control gobbling of  tasty food    and become fat,
Women  goes on  not eating endlessly, making her endlessly irritable,
He wants  her  to be slim but eat food, though he never thinks  of his looks,
Would these  not irritate   each other  and make life miserable.

4.A woman does not want  , her husband  to appreciate beauty of another girl,
And he  does not want her  to   talk  of any  man of  her pre marriage life,
Men are  jealous  of their wives and   they   keep on dreaming of girls with whom  he talks,
Would not these  mutual   attitudes make   their  family  life miserable.

5.The husband   wants his wife  to  only cook  dishes in his mummy’s way ,
And he  never allows  her  to order   the dishes she likes in any  hotel,
And she knowing well  , his likes ,  cooks everything   her mummy’s way,
Would  not these mutual torture  make their family life  miserable.

6.There  is  nothing  in the world   that  is impossible   to him, he says
And it is also   true that   he fails to do all those  miserably,
She says   she is a super cook   but all her dishes   are difficult to eat,
Would not   accepting what you are  make  family life less miserable.

7.Promising one thing   and doing   just the  opposite,
Acting as if you love your in laws  while you are    really hating them,
Telling every one that  the other person is a boss while they are slaves,
Would not these   contradictions  in life make  it miserable.

8.Bombarding children  in front of  husband  but telling  the child,
In private that she only  loves them  and would give  them what they want,
Without the knowledge  of the  husband and making  them smile ,
Makes the children  take up to   wrong ways  and makes  them hate their father.

9.A husband  not bothering   about   the life and health of his wife,
And  being very sensitive  of even a   sneeze   of his own,
And a husband thinking   that  he  is the king and she his   slave,
Would not these   attitudes  make    family  life  miserable.

10.A husband  would be spending   all his   time in whatsapp and facebook,
A wife  would be  day and night busy on watching lengthy serials in TV,
Making both of them   having  no time   to discuss and take important decisions,
Would not this type of life  , lead their   life   to be  full of misery,

Wednesday, September 26, 2018

Yaksha Prasna

Yaksha Prasna
(Questions of Yaksha)
   Translated by

(During the time when the Pandavas were living in the forest, a deer took away the stick used to make fire from the sage’s home in the forest in its antlers. The saint tried to recover it but could not. He then requested the Pandavas (sons of Pandu) to trace the deer by its hoof marks and recover it. The Pandavas followed the hoof marks of the deer throughout the day and reached deep in the forest. Dharma Puthra the eldest of the Pandavas became very tired and wanted to drink some water before carrying on the chase any further. Sahadeva the youngest brother volunteered to bring the water. He spotted a lake near by. The lake was bare of any living beings except a crane. When Sahadeva tried to drink water from the lake, the crane spoke to him, “Oh Sahadeva, the water of this lake is poisonous, if you drink it without answering my questions.” Sahadeva did not bother and drank the water from the lake and died. After some time Nakula came in search. And was surprised at seeing the dead Sahadeva. He too decided to drink water and was warned by the crane and he too died on drinking the water. The same thing happened to Arjuna and Bheema. Seeing that all his four brothers are missing, Dharma Puthra came in search. Since he was very thirsty, he too tried to drink the water from the lake. But when the crane warned him, he decided to answer the questions of the crane. Before asking questions, the crane revealed himself as a Yaksha. All the questions asked by the Yaksha were answered by Dharma Puthra to the Yaksha’s satisfaction. Then the Yaksha gave a boon to Dharma Puthra to bring back alive one of his dead brothers. Dharma wanted, Nakula to be made alive. The surprised Yaksha asked him, “Oh king, why did you choose Nakula, when you could have chosen Bheema and Arjuna?” Dharma Puthra replied, “I am alive and so my mother Kunthi has one son. I wanted my other mother Madhri also to have a son alive,”
   The Yaksha was very much pleased and gave life back to all the Pandavas. Given below are the pointed questions asked by the Yaksha and the pithy and very direct replies given by Dharma Puthra. These are a store house of knowledge and termed as “Yaksha Prasna (Questions of Yaksha)”. I have not been able to get the Sanskrit originals for doing the translation but depended on a Tamil book called “Yaksha Prasna compiled by Sri.P.N.Parsuraman and published by General Publications, Madras (2001).
   This is the first time the translation of the entire Yaksha Prasna “is being uploaded in the web.)

1. Who makes the Sun rise?
       The Brahmam (the formless, all pervading God) makes the sun rise.

2. Who travel on both sides of the Sun?

      Devas travel on both sides of the Sun.

       (Sun travels in the sky, frequented by celestial beings called Devas.)

3. Who makes the Sun to set?

     Dharma makes the Sun to set.

4.Where does the Sun establish himself?

     Sun establishes himself in truth.

5.How does a man become expert in reciting Vedas?

    He becomes an expert in reciting by learning it.

6. How does a  man become great?

    Man becomes great by Tapas (austerities).

7. How does a man become secure?

   Man becomes secure by courage.

8.How does a man becomes wise?

     He becomes wise by living with learned wise men.

9.What is godliness to Brahmanas?

   Learning of Vedas is Godliness to the Brahmanas (people with knowledge as vocation)

10. What is the duty of Brahmanas?

   Tapas( Austerity)  is the duty of Brahmanas.

11. What is the human side of Brahmanas?

    Pride and selfishness is the human side of Brahmanas.

12. What is sinful action for the Brahmanas?

      Finding fault with others is the sinful action to Brahmanas.

13. What is godliness to Kshathriyas?

     Weapons are the Godliness to Kshatriyas (Fighters and defenders)

14. What is he Dharma for Kshatriyas?

      Carrying out Yagna (fire sacrifices) is the Dharma of Kshatriyas.

15. What is the human side of Kshatriyas?

        Fear is the human side of Kshatriyas.

16. What is sinful action to Kshatriyas?

       Not giving protection to those who seek it from them is sin for Kshatriyas.

17. Which is the Sama Veda for fire sacrifices?

       Soul is the Sama Veda of fire sacrifices.

18. Which is the most important Rik Vedic chant for fire sacrifice?
       Mind is the most important Rik for fire sacrifice.

19. How do you propose to make a fire sacrifice?

       Rik Veda is the one which proposes the fire sacrifice.

20. What does Fire sacrifice obey always?

     It always obeys the tenets of Rik Veda.

21. What is the best for farmers?

    Rain is the best for farmers.

22 What is the best for those who sow seeds?

      Quality seed is the best for them.

23. What wealth is the best for those who want to live stable lives?

       Growing cows is the best that gives stable wealth.

24. What is the best for those who give birth?

       Son is the best for those who give birth.

25. Which strong, rich and clever man is considered as not breathing, even if he breaths?

      The one who does not look after Gods, guests, servants, ancestors  and his own self is considered as not breathing , even if he breaths.

26. Which is heavier than earth?
     Mother is heavier than earth.

27. Which is taller than the sky?

    Father is taller than the sky.

28. Which is faster than wind?

   Mind is faster than wind.

29. Which is more in number than grasses?

      Worries outnumber grasses.

30. Which does not close its eyes even while sleeping?

       Fish does not close its eyes while sleeping.

31. What does not move even after birth?

      Eggs do not move even after birth.

32. What does not have a heart?

      A stone does not have a heart.

33. What grows further with speed?

    The river grows further with speed.

34. Who is the friend, for  one  goes abroad?

      Education is the only friend of people who grow abroad.

35. Who keeps company to the one who stays with in his house?

      Only his wife keeps company to such a person.

36. Who is the friend for the sick person?

     Doctor is the friend of the sick person.

37. Who is the friend of the one who is going to die?

      Charity is the only friend to such a person.

38. Who is the welcome guest to all?

      Fire is the welcome guest to all.

39. What is the good deed which is stable?

       That deed which leads to salvation is the stable good deed.

40. What is nectar?

       Milk of the cow called “Somam”, is the nectar.

41. How is the entire world?

     The entire world is filled with air.

42. Who travels alone?

     Sun travels alone.

43. Who takes birth again and again?

     The moon takes birth again and again.

44. What is the antidote for mist?

     Fire is the antidote for mist.

45. Which is the vessel that can contain everything?

       Earth is the vessel which can contain everything.

46. Where does “Dharma ( just action” normally reside?

     “Just action” resides mainly in cleverness.

47. Where does “fame” normally reside?

     “Fame” resides mainly in charity.

48. Where does “heaven” normally reside?

       “Heaven” normally resides in truth.

49. Where does “pleasure” normally reside?

    “Pleasure” normally resides in good conduct.

50. What is the soul for man?

     Son (athmaja-born out of soul)  is the soul for man.

51. Who is the companion made by God?

      Wife is the companion made by God.

52. What aids man in “making a living”?

      Rain helps man in making a living.

53. What is the place where man ultimately reaches?

     “Charity” is the place where man ultimately reaches.

54. Which is the best giver of wealth?

     “Tireless effort” is the best giver of wealth.

55. What is the best among things?

     The knowledge that we get from learned is the best thing.

56. What is the best among “blessings”?

     “Life without sickness” is the best among blessings.

57. What is the best among” pleasures”?

      “Contentment” is the best among pleasures

58. Which is the best among “ Dharma (just actions) ”?

      Non violence is the best among “just actions”.

59. Which action always gives good results?

      The fire sacrifice done by three fires (Vedas) always gives results.

60. By controlling which man will never be sad?

             By controlling the mind man will never become sad.

61. Friendship with whom lasts for ever?

Friendship with godly persons will last for ever.

62. By leaving which will man never become sad?

         By leaving anger man will never become sad.

63. By leaving which will man become rich?

        By leaving out desires, man becomes rich.

64. By leaving which, man will be able to lead a happy life?

       By leaving out miserliness, man would be able to lead a happy life.

65. Why should we give to Brahmins?

     It is to do “just action”.

66. Why should we give to dancers and actors?

      It is for attaining fame.

67. Why should we give it to servants?

     It is for making them obey you.

68. Why should we give to the king?

       It is to avoid fear.

69. By which is the world covered?

      World is covered by ignorance.

70. What is the world?

      The soul is the world.

71. Why does not the world shine?

       World does not shine because of bad behaviour.

72. Why do friends go away?

      When they get nothing from you, they go away.

73. Why does not man reach heaven?

        Man does not reach heaven due to attachment.

74 .When does man live like the ‘dead”?

        When he is poor he lives like the “dead”.

75. When does a country does not have life?

       When it does not have good rulers, it does not have life.

76. Which ritual to please manes does not have any result?

        When it is done without Vedic pundits, it does not give results.

77. When does a fire sacrifice  not yield results?

         When adequate compensation is not given, it does not have results.

78. What is the way?

              The way of Godly men is the only way.

79 What is water?

             Sky is water

80. What is food?

           Food is beings

81. What is poison?

         Begging from others is poison.

82. What is the proper time to carry death anniversary?

          When you see a learned Brahmin, it is the proper time.

(At this stage Dharma Puthra asks the Yaksha, “What do you think?”. Instead of answering Yaksha continues with his questions.)

83. What is the grammar for austerity?

    Standing in one’s own Dharma (prescribed just action) is austerity.

84. What is “Dhama”?

       “Dhama” is controlling the mind.

85. What is the “best patience”?

     Bearing pleasures, sorrow, becoming great, being downgraded with equanimity is the “best patience”.

86. What is Jnana?

   Jnana (wisdom?) is knowing the real truth.

87. What is “Sama”?

    Being peaceful within mind is “Sama”.

88. What is the “best mercy”?

   Wishing for pleasures for all is the “best mercy”.

89. What is righteousness?

   Having the same attitude towards everybody is righteousness.

90. Who is the enemy who cannot  be defeated by man?

    Anger is the enemy that cannot be defeated by man.

91. Which is the disease that has no end?

      Avarice is the disease that has no end.

92. Who is considered as a holy man?

    He who loves all and does good for all, is considered as a holy man.

93. Who is considered as “not holy”?

   He who does not have mercy is considered as “not holy.”

94. Which is considered as insensibility?

       Not understanding Dharma (just action?) is considered as insensibility.

95. What is honour?

         The pride in oneself is called honour.

96. What is laziness?

       Not doing Dharma (just action?) is laziness.

97. What is sorrow?

    Ignorance is sorrow.

98. What is considered as stability by holy men and sages?

    Steadfastly following one’s own Dharma is defined as “stability” by them.

99. What is courage?

    Controlling the five senses is “courage”.

100. What is a good bath?

     Cleaning the mind of the accumulated dirt is the good bath.

101. What is the best charity one can do?

     Saving life of others is the greatest charity one can do.

102. Who is fit to be considered as a scholar?

      He who knows Dharma (just action)) can be considered as a scholar.

103. Who can be considered as an atheist?

    He who does not believe in other worlds is an atheist.

104. Who is considered as an arrogant fool?

     An atheist can be considered as an arrogant fool.

105. What is passion?

   That which leads to birth and death is called “passion”.

106. Which is considered as “unhealthy competition.”?

    Unnecessary turmoil of the mind is “unhealthy competition.”

107. What is pride?

     Ignorance is pride.

108. What is snobbishness?

     Telling others that “I am the only follower of Dharma” is snobbishness.

109. What is considered as the special God called luck?

      The result of charity done by oneself is considered as “the special God called luck.”

110. What is considered as  the bad habit of carrying tales?

      Enjoying telling news about others is this bad character.

111. When will the contradictory notions of wealth, passion and Dharma come together?

       When your wife and dharma agree with each other, then these concepts come together.

112. Which man will reach the indestructible hell? Please reply me quickly.

     Indestructible hell is continuously being born and dying in this world again and again. Some of the causes are:-

a. Tempting a poor Brahmin with charity of wealth and not giving it.

b. Telling lies in the practice of Vedic rituals.

c. Not enjoying our own wealth and not using to help others also.

113. Tell me after careful thought how Brahmanism is born .Is it through birth, character, learning Vedas or knowledge of sciences?

   Birth, learning of Vedas and knowledge of science are not necessary aspects of Brahmanism. It is due to one’s own character.  One with good character never becomes bad and one with bad character is always considered as bad. He who is interested in rituals and who also has full control over his senses is the real Brahmin.

114. What does one who tells sweet words get?

    He becomes friends for everybody.

115. What does one who does planned actions get?

     He attains success.

116. What does one who has many friends get?

     He lives happily.

117. What does one who is attached to Dharma get?

        He attains salvation

118. Who attains happiness?

      He, who does not take loan, does not go to a foreign country for living and one who can cook and eat at least green leaves, is the one who attains happiness.

119. What is surprise?

.  The fact that people thinking themselves as stable and permanent, in spite of seeing several deaths daily is surprising.

120. What is the path?

       There is contradiction in teaching of Vedas as well as the teaching of several great sages. Apart from this the path of Dharma as explained by the learned is difficult to understand.

121. What is the event that happens daily?

         The earth is a very big cooking vessel. Sky is the lid to this vessel. The cook called Time puts all movable and immovable things in to this vessel. He takes the firewood of night and day and lights them up with Sun. He stirs it with ladles called seasons and months and this happens daily.
122. Who is called “purusha (man)” among those who are living and with all his desires fulfilled?

  Good deeds done with no interests in the fruits or with interests in its fruits, make one’s name spread in heaven and earth. Till his fame lasts, he is called “Purusha”

123. Who pervades in everything?

     He who considers desire and hatred, pleasure and pain, what is coming and what is being lost etc with equanimity is called “Brahma Jnani (knower of Brahman)” and he is the one who pervades in everything.

Saturday, September 22, 2018

The silken bond of daughters with their mother is strong

The  silken bond  of daughters  with their  mother  is strong

Rewritten by

( I  read   with lot of interest , a pretty   and well illustrated article by Ms  Pallavi  Thakur   and that  lead  me to  give a new title   and rewrite  it   in my own way. Do go though what i have written   and read her writing also ,No harm if you  like her  write up better. I will understand  )

1.The parents give the girl  a pretty name,
Next day   they for get it  and give you a pet name,
Both in schools and college , you are  known by your real  name,
But your Ma breaks the secret by calling  you be pet name before  your friends,

2.Every girl    wants to be thin and pretty    and for that,
She walks more    and tries   to eat   as less as possible.
But if her mother   were   to serve   her    the food,
She serves so much, that all her  resolutions are broken.

3.Mummy   was the GPS  invented by god   when he created,
A girl  for every minute    she will ask  her umpteen questions,
Where are  you going? With whom are   you going ?,
When will you reach ? when will you get back   and so on and on

4.However ugly you are  , however  fat   you are  ,
However  aged   you are  , always to your mummy,
You are the most  prettiest  girl   in the world and
IN her view  all boys, girls and women look   at you with an evil eye.

5.Every one knows   , that   every girl’s mother ,
Would be praying  God every minute   for her darling’s.
Safety   and tell him that   for that purpose   ,
She will not eat food, not sleep  and pray day and night.

6.Whatever may be the time  and wherever  may be the daughter,
The first question   her mother   would ask her    would be  ,
“Have   you eaten your food?” “What all  things you ate?”
“Did any outsider  see you while  eating  ?”  and on and on

7.All girls  know that no dad dares   to say  to say “No”,
If their mother  asks him any thing  in the world ,
But when the girl ask   her  mother  some favour,
Her mother would say  , “Go and ask your father?”

 8.All girls know    that their mother is  the greatest detective,
In finding   out the truth   of any   thing   related to her ,
And she will patiently listen to  every lie  that  the girl says,
And the end say “of course  lie” , you should have  been a novelist.

9.Mothers are  busy  in thinking  , cooking  and worrying  ,
And when they   talk they   are  some times  incoherent  ,
They may say ,”Good for nothing  , round Chapathi , Perfect groom “
And at that  time   the daughters  give  them a clueless  look.

10. All her life   mother  patiently    hears  all  questions ,
From her daughter  but when she feels that   her daughter ,
Has grown up  ,she prefers   to be adamant  with her replies,
And daughters  ask why , she says ”because  I  said   so?”

11. When a teenage girl argues   with   her mother ,
She tells her ‘When you   grow up    you  will know  ,”
But when the argument becomes serious  and daughter ,
Adamant, she will say “When you  become mother  you will know”

12,”Hey darling daughter , what happened   to you  today,
You seem to have   woken up  without  my   assistance  
When  the mother   tells  to her daughter who slept  very late ,
The daughters   smile  within themselves  and give a  sweet hug to their mother,

13.When  you  forget  to shoes  on the rack  in a hurry  to meet your friends,
When you    are late   for the family  function    due to chit chatting  with friends,
And when you are  always  busy in  chatting   and texting  over phone with them,
Your mother  does get upset and tell you that “you friends are not everything always.”

14. When food is served   by your mother , if you make   a funny face  ,
To some how   swallow     the left over   vegetable   in your plate,
Your mother tells “ Lot of poor kidds   do not get morsel of food   when they need”
You  some how    wonder  , how  your cleaning the plate would help  those kids.