How to behave with different , different people

How to behave  with  different , different people

 

Translated by

P.R.Ramachander

 

 (I got this  great sloka   from the  face book post of My friend  , Great  Vasu iyengar, Thanks to him)

 

दाक्षिण्यं स्वजने दया परिजने शाठ्यं सदा दुर्जने |

प्रीतिः साधुजने नयो नृपजने विद्वज्जनेश्वार्जवम् ||

शौर्यं शत्रुजने क्षमा गुरुजने कान्ताजने धृष्टता |

येचैवं पुरुषाः कलासु कुशलाः तेष्वेव लोकस्थितिः ||

 

தாக்ஷிண்யம் ஸ்வஜனே,

தயா பரிஜனே,சாட்யம் சதா துர்ஜனே | ப்ரீதி: சாது ஜனே, நயோ ந்ருப ஜனே, வித்வத் ஜனே சார்ஜவம் | |

சௌர்யம் சத்ருஜனே, க்ஷமா குருஜனே,காந்தாஜனே த்ருஷ்டதா | யேசைவம் புருஷா: கலாசு குசலாஸ்தேப்வேவ லோகஸ்திதி: | |

 

Dakshinyam swajane, dhayaa  parijane  , Sadyam sadhaa  Durjane

Preethi   Sadhu jane Nayo nripa jane , Vidhwajjane  aswarjavam

SAurye   sathru  jane, kshama guru jane  , kaanthaa jane  drushtathaa

Yechaivam    kalasu  kushala  THeshweva  Loka Sthithi

 

Behave  with skilful  kindness  with own people , with kindness  to servants, always adamant  with evil people

Affection    to honest  people , diplomacy  to  rulers, honesty  to  learned people

Bravery  to enemies. Patience  to elders, open ness  to  wife,

The world would  be  with  such  people  who are clever in the art  of behaviour

 

Modern Gita for all of us

 Modern  Gita for  all of  us

(Written based  on, Tamil   write up)

By

P.R.Ramachander

You got what  you got

For   all that is good

When you did not get

Again  for  all that is good

 

Whatever  you have to get ,

You will  get  at  the right  time

Whatever  you have  asked,

You will  get, if there  is  a need

 

The joy   of  getting   something

Is  till you   get it in your hand

Next second    , you will  want ,

Some other  thing and this will  go on and on

 

So   be happy   with  what you have,

And what  you  get  without asking

This  is   the just  rule  of  getting

And  follow   this  without fail

A pleasant surprise to me

 A pleasant surprise to me  

At  the age  of 23 I joined  as Class  2 Gazetted officer  in Cebtral  Arecanut   research Station at vital . There were  100  staff members Working  at that  time  in the Institute.Out of them 3 were  officers and 4   Research  assistants.

I was younger  than   all of them.One  Sri E.Velappan  became   my close   friend. I left   Arecanut  research  station in 1969 and joined  IARI  sub station in Coimbatore .

For    the past several  years  I have  been searching   for my friend .Yesterday  evening  he contacted  me .It was   a pleasant shock  for me

 From him I  understood  that Except for himself  , myself  and  one DR.A.R.Kalbande  who joined in 1965 , all of them are no more, P.R.Ramachander

Visit by a scholar poet Rajan

Visit  by a scholar  poet Rajan

BY

Rajasekharan Venkatraman 

(Yesterday  Rajan (Rajashekaran  ) and Brinda  who are  children  of my  Thankanna  visited me. Though they  both are  juniors  in age , They showed  how  intimate  is our relation. . These  lines  touched me)

 

 

A scholar’s haven, where wisdom resides,

Surrounded by knowledge, where culture abides.

 

His legacy etched in timeless themes,

In words translated, a heart well-matched.

 

From ancient texts to melodies sweet,

His passion endures a noble feat.

 

A beacon of light, in a world of change,

Preserving traditions, for eternity's range.

 Across the miles, a connection deep,

A family's story, to forever keep.

 

A glimpse of the past, a memory's trace,

A treasured moment, filled with light.

 

A bond of family, strong and near,

In Ammanji Kutty, a love so profound.

Meaning changes with time.

Meaning changes  with time.

 

Translated by

P.R.Ramachander

 

One boy  , told a girl- I am your BF.

What is that  she asked.Best  Friend

 

They started  loving each other

He told her,  I am your BF

What is that  , she asked with shyness-Boy friend

 

After  some  time  , they Got married, They became parents to  Pretty children

He told her  -I am your BF

Wife asked  slowly- What is  that?

Baby’s father

 

They became old   and were  watching sun set

He told her  -I am your BF

The granny asked the granpa-What  is that?

You  “Be forever”

 

At   the time  of death he said-I am your BF

She asked very sadly” What is that now?

Bye  forever, he said

 

After    some years  she also died

She   saw  her garlanded  photo and said BF

Heavens said  “Besides  forever”

Real grand kids of an unreal Royal granpa

 

 

Real  grand  kids  of an unreal  Royal granpa

 

By

Raja  Thatha

 

Thatha Had  nothing  much to do,

Except  staring   at  the roof,

Then he  wanted to know,

Why he is  the thatha

 

Before I have  ever seen her,

She was  named  as Friendship v called as  My THu 

And  became  a great  friendly kid,

Not only  to her  Thatha  but  to all the world

 

With no one  who  will  represent  my clan,

Some one   from  far  off  USA  called  me and told,

A sun  has  risen in our  family

One who would  make all the world   bright

 

One day   , I felt   that  I am too poor

And God send me from heaven  a tonne of Gold

The Gold that laughed  and made  me  laugh

One  who in future  would make  the world pretty

 

Then came another  glorious kid  , far far off

And the pricess was  called  princess  of malva,

And  she is  now living  like a  princess of knowledge

One who is  sure  to make  this world a great place  to live for me

 

The  rising  sun   did  not   have  a chotta  bro,

And  God send him one , so that  he will be  the shining moon

And  he  made  us  all say that  he will  make  the world  enjoy

And he was the One  who  made  a poor  thatha  get a   gift from Santa

The Pancha Thanthra (five tricks) to get happiness from our life?

 The Pancha Thanthra (five tricks) to get happiness from our life?

Rewritten in English by
P.R.Ramachander

(Based on a write up in Tamil posted in whatsapp . Thanks to the author)

1. The important needs of a family happiness.
Without any doubt for happiness of the family income is needed,
Along with that are needed unity, humanity, hobby, appreciation and health,
Without any of which life would be drab as well as uninteresting,
Whether you get only income in tens or hundreds or thousands per day
Happiness of the family also depends on our maturity, children and mutual unity
For without maturity all the decisions that we take would be always wrong,
For without savings we would get crushed into a heap when sudden need for money is there.
For without children we would be living a meaningless and aimless life.
And without unity, the hell like family would be working at cross purposes.

2. What does a wife want from a husband?
A wife wants Him to love her, talk to her without wounding her and not to get angry
For these three qualities of HIM is the real essence of an ideal married life,
Further she wants him, not to find fault in her cooking, never shout at her in front of others,
For these her ego as a cook is hurt badly and as her ego suffers a jolt before her friends.
She wants Him to be on her side always, accompany her to functions,
For these give her inner confidence and makes others think that he loves her,
She wants him to consult her. Hear what she tells patiently and support her ideas,
For these make her feel that she is a capable home worker who has a part in running the home.
She wants him to appreciate her, take interest in family and talk to her without reservations,
For no one can live without appreciation and the other two makes her feel her happy,
She wants him to take her outside once in a month and also have an annual vacation.
For these two gives her a change from the drab routine of the humdrum of life.
She wants him not to hide anything from her, have belief in her and tell her all important things,
For these makes her feel that she is not just a home worker and nothing else,
She also wants him not to appreciate other ladies and be contended with her prettiness,
For she feels that her role as a wife to him is recognized by him and he loves her.
He should do small helps to her, fulfil her basic needs and love her as much as his mother,
For she feels that he has interest in her as a person who loves him without reservation,
She wants him to take timely food, tell her about guests before hand and also tell her where he is going,
For house management and care of him is considered by her as very important.
She wants him to remember her birthday, know her likes and that he should not dislike her family,
For these three things make her feel that he cares for her and also likes her family,
She wants him never to tell a lie and that he should give her pocket money,
Because if he lies she cannot believe him at all and it would be nice that she has money to spend.

3. What does a husband expect from his wife?
He wants her to wake up early and know about office and school timings and get him and children ready,
So that she can finish of all the chores of family and see that he is not late to office and children are not late to school,
He wants her to have a smiling face and be hospitable without bothering for time.
So that he is not worried that she is suffering and his friends like him to be hospitable.
He wants her to consider his mother as her own and also obey his house people,
For they are the people who like him and he wants her to keep them pleased,
He wants her not to find fault with males always, and not keep on ordering him about,
For if she finds fault with males, he may feel that she does not like him and ordering him about is not pleasant.
He wants her to work for peace and unity of his family and not tell about his faults to others,
Because he feels that she splits his family and all his faults told by her will make him unpopular,
He wants her not to suspect him, and be secretive about his family problems,
If she suspects him life would become miserable and her talk about problems would be misused by others.
He does not want her to talk about family problems as soon as he returns from office,
Because he would be already carrying with him the office problems and this would make him miserable,
He wants her to be in good terms with his family members and be contented with what they have,
For by doing that his family would support them in times of crisis and contentment brings happiness,
He wants her to have desires within limits and take interest in children’s education,
Because while contentment grants him happiness, Children’s education is the root of their future,
He wants her to limit family expenses within his income and desist from picking his pockets,
For large worries can be avoided by proper expenditure and he should not be taken aback by missing money from his pockets.
He wants her to tell him her wants in advance and help him in future planning of the family,
Because both these actions would bless him with serenity and peace,
He expects her tell everything that happened in day before retiring to bed,
Because this will keep him informed of the pluses and minuses of every day.
She should defend him in her parents’ home and have patience as well as humility,
For He does not want to be badly thought by in laws and these qualities makes his life happy,
He expects her not to interfere when he corrects the children and he expects her to cook all that he likes,
For once she interferes the children will not obey him and good food is a basis of good life,
He expects her to look nice when he comes home, talk clearly and have good general knowledge,
For he loves her much more when she is pretty and unless she has general knowledge she would not be respected,
He expects her to talk clearly, not buy unnecessary things and be a spend thrift,
For He wants to know her ideas and wants to save money for their mutual future.

4. The reasons for the reduction of happiness of a family
Frequent quarrels, finding faults of each other, not keeping one’s word,
Not able to get what one wants, lack of belief and faith in each other,
Inability to go on vacation trips, not providing mutual help, lack of guests,
Misplacing each other’s things, lack of cooperation in new ventures,
Lack of give and take, wounding each other by words As well as,
Inability to create happy situations makes the life of a family miserable.

5. Ten commandments to lead a happy life

1, Love each other and take interest in each other
2. Do more and more work with enhanced interest?
3. Talk sweetly avoiding words likes me and mine,
4. Try to understand , respect and praise each other,
5. Do each action with maximum energy,
6. Hear what others say and respond properly
7. Accept the faults of others and ignore them,
8. Be straight forward, humorous, timely and sweetly
9. Handle every person in the way that is most suited,
10. Do not judge a person in great hurry, just by one look.