The first fierce
feud to get control of
a kitchen( home)
By
P.R.Ramachander
(I took this theme from
a face book tamil post of my friend Sridhar Ramaswami, thanks to him.)
A family showers tonnes
of affection in bringing up,
Its great so who
is going be the seed that
would not allow,
To break the
chain of the paternal family in
India,
Not only In India but
wherever paternal inheritance is
practiced.
In our Country
that is the bruhat(big) , Bharath, as soon as son attains,
Twenty five years of age, we travel all
over the country ,
To search for a pretty bride for him , from a family that
is noble,
And after
weighing her education, culture and
heredity,
WE bring her as
the b(p)ride of our home
with joy and celebrations.
It is the mother
of that boy who insists on a a regal(royal) marriage to him,
And she
invites the new pretty cultured bride
of her son to her home,
Not as a daughter
as per law but a daughter whom
she has carried for ten months,
Gave birth, cherished
as well as nurtured her and for a
few days ,
And after the
marriage she would be her greatest
f(r)iend and the gift of God.
Slowly the new daughter
of the family would understand
the cultures of her new home,
The likes as well as
dislikes of each and every
one of all the people in that home,
Especially her
husband and she would have also understood
to enjoy,
The moments of solitude with him, and the
art giving him joy as well as
getting joy from him.
One day
after all the guests of the marriage, in the morning the shy bride ,
Chewing all that
recently happened at night enters
the kitchen of her new home,
So that she can prepare
a cup of degree coffee to her new darling,
And finds her new
mother there, not at all happy to
see her that time ,
For right from
the day that mother in law expired ,
this was her own palace.
The mother in law who
was no more her mother becomes
greatly scared,
And tells her in a troubled voice , “I know he likes
strong bitter coffee with a spoon of sugar,
And I would make it
up and you can take it to him and before you go,
Tell me your likes and I would also prepare
them for you
Then the new
d(evil)aughter in law of the home
starts serving her husband breakfast,
Offers him water
to wash his hand with sweet silly loving murmurings,
And she makes it a
point to be always at three feet distance from her husband.
Selects dress for
him to wear at office and bids him good bye
to office with a flying kiss.
When his mother
who was doing all this as her own monopoly right ,
Finds that at one stroke, at least to avoid gossip she has to give up all of them.
Becomes greatly miserable because
she feels that He is Her own,
And all these
are her duties and the intruder
can do it only after she gives them up.
Every moment instead
of thinking her in law daughter as her daughter,
She starts
thinking that she is her
fiercest enemy who has stolen .
All that is
hers including her love(affection) to her own son,
And starts asking
herself “Does he belong to me or to that
teen aged ghost?”
The well educated
daughter in law without understanding that
these signs,
Are the prime signals of possessiveness from her monster like
mother in law ,.
Tells every one that , she is not allowed to do any work
and she is very unhappy to be there,
And feels jealous on her mother in law and some
times even shouts at her.
And the mother feels
that this nasty one has stolen her
son from her and becomes miserable.
Possesiveness is a
mental trauma similar to a child
with a toy,
And she starts seeing the world is her greatest enemy and feels,
That though she can give every thing this chit of girl does,
She can never ,
ever hope to give her that which she alone can give.
All mothers are
all alike and they want
they only want to love their
sons,
All young women
are alike in that they want to be the only
source of joy to him,
But if the
mother is in a good mood to understand and wife is in a good mood to explain ,
Let the young one
make the elder one understand that she
too was once young and once newly married.
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