The first fierce feud to get control of a kitchen( home)
(I took this theme from a face book tamil post of my friend Sridhar Ramaswami, thanks to him.)
A family showers tonnes of affection in bringing up,
Its great so who is going be the seed that would not allow,
To break the chain of the paternal family in India,
Not only In India but wherever paternal inheritance is practiced.
In our Country that is the bruhat(big) , Bharath, as soon as son attains,
Twenty five years of age, we travel all over the country ,
To search for a pretty bride for him , from a family that is noble,
And after weighing her education, culture and heredity,
WE bring her as the b(p)ride of our home with joy and celebrations.
It is the mother of that boy who insists on a a regal(royal) marriage to him,
And she invites the new pretty cultured bride of her son to her home,
Not as a daughter as per law but a daughter whom she has carried for ten months,
Gave birth, cherished as well as nurtured her and for a few days ,
And after the marriage she would be her greatest f(r)iend and the gift of God.
Slowly the new daughter of the family would understand the cultures of her new home,
The likes as well as dislikes of each and every one of all the people in that home,
Especially her husband and she would have also understood to enjoy,
The moments of solitude with him, and the art giving him joy as well as getting joy from him.
One day after all the guests of the marriage, in the morning the shy bride ,
Chewing all that recently happened at night enters the kitchen of her new home,
So that she can prepare a cup of degree coffee to her new darling,
And finds her new mother there, not at all happy to see her that time ,
For right from the day that mother in law expired , this was her own palace.
The mother in law who was no more her mother becomes greatly scared,
And tells her in a troubled voice , “I know he likes strong bitter coffee with a spoon of sugar,
And I would make it up and you can take it to him and before you go,
Tell me your likes and I would also prepare them for you
Then the new d(evil)aughter in law of the home starts serving her husband breakfast,
Offers him water to wash his hand with sweet silly loving murmurings,
And she makes it a point to be always at three feet distance from her husband.
Selects dress for him to wear at office and bids him good bye to office with a flying kiss.
When his mother who was doing all this as her own monopoly right ,
Finds that at one stroke, at least to avoid gossip she has to give up all of them.
Becomes greatly miserable because she feels that He is Her own,
And all these are her duties and the intruder can do it only after she gives them up.
Every moment instead of thinking her in law daughter as her daughter,
She starts thinking that she is her fiercest enemy who has stolen .
All that is hers including her love(affection) to her own son,
And starts asking herself “Does he belong to me or to that teen aged ghost?”
The well educated daughter in law without understanding that these signs,
Are the prime signals of possessiveness from her monster like mother in law ,.
Tells every one that , she is not allowed to do any work and she is very unhappy to be there,
And feels jealous on her mother in law and some times even shouts at her.
And the mother feels that this nasty one has stolen her son from her and becomes miserable.
Possesiveness is a mental trauma similar to a child with a toy,
And she starts seeing the world is her greatest enemy and feels,
That though she can give every thing this chit of girl does,
She can never , ever hope to give her that which she alone can give.
All mothers are all alike and they want they only want to love their sons,
All young women are alike in that they want to be the only source of joy to him,
But if the mother is in a good mood to understand and wife is in a good mood to explain ,
Let the young one make the elder one understand that she too was once young and once newly married.