Failure is not forever

Failure   is not forever

By

P.R.Ramachander

(Based on a tamil post  imn KM s  time line. Posted by  Sridar Nambi  Thanks to him)

I had  visited a yard where   elephants ,

Are maintained   by human beings like us  ,

And I found that   only a thin rope  was,

Used to tie the elephant   to the posts.

Wondering why they are  not easily,

Breaking the rope    and running away ,

I asked the person in  charge  my doubt,

He smiled and showed me some elephant calves.

I noted that   they were also tied   by the same,

Type of rope   and being small , they would never,

Be able to break the   rope    and run away ,

And I was told , “They have tried but failed”

When these  calves grow up   we still tie,

Them with the same rope but since  ,

The one time failure    is well within their mind,

They feel they cannot  and never  try to be free.

If like those   elephant calves, once we fail,

We think that we would  always   fail  and never ever try,

We would never   ever   be able   to that   again,

Teaching us    with no confidence   we would  always fail.

Guru learns stability of emotions

Guru learns stability of emotions

By

P.R.Ramachander

(Based on the note by    Jayaraman Venkatraman Dindigul in face book. My thanks to him)

One seeker of knowledge approached  a great Guru,

And asked him , “Great sir  , can you  please  tell me,

Wherefrom   you have learnt   this composure  ,

And  wisdom,?” .Guru replied”From a donkey?”

The seeker was greatly disturbed   and thought  ,

That  the Guru  was  teasing  him  , but the Guru told,

“The donkey is not sad that  it carried soiled cloths in the morning,

Nor is it happy that he is carrying clean cloths  in the evening,

I only observed  it and decided to follow  the dokey in my life.,”

Made for each other but never agreed with each other

Made for each other but never agreed with each other

By

P.R.Ramachander

One TV channel   decided  to conduct ,

A made for  each other contest  ,

For the couples whio have already ,

Celebrated  their silver anniversary.

Hundreds of couples   came  for the contest,

But one couple   came there constantly quarrelling,

With the wife   shouting   at her husband ,

“Why are  you dragging  me here”

The orgainsers asked the   husband and wife,

Seperately  several questions and compared their views,

And fpund that  most of answers of very many couples.

Matched   to a   very remarkable   extent.

Out of them  one couple  made the audience,

Giving them standing ovation   as they,

Scored  one humdred   out of one hundred,

By giving    same answer to all   the questions.

The couple   who came fighting  to participate,

In the contest did not give even a   single same answer,

But the organisers called  that couple  along,

With the couple who scored  one hundred to the stage.

The couple   who had scored   had an arranged marriage  ,

Had four children  and had lived together   forty years ,

While   the couple who scored  one humdred marks,

Had been married  only    for twenty five  years.

The prize  of a new car was awarded  by the judge  to the couple,

Who never agreed  as he felt   that  he felt  that,

Thwy have  done a great job by living yogether ,

For forty years  , without agreeing on anything.

 When the crowd  was about   to disperse  they all heard,

That wife shouting  at her husband  why he has not learnt driving,

And going round and round the car  and her husband  chasing her,

And then the wife told, “Do not follow me , you have arthritis  and  your legs will pain.”

They may differ   in each and every thing  but  they,

Both cared  for each other and loved  each other,

And  cannot  live  even for a  day  without  the other,

Especially   without  hearing  their  choice disagreements.

You are great and not inferior to any one in any aspect

You   are great  and not inferior to any one  in any aspect

By

P.R,Ramachander

(Idea expanded based on a tamil write up that I read in facebook.Thanks to the author)

No one can be ugly , believe yourself that  you are handsome,

Understand that  beauty   and colour   are not related,

Understand that  your beauty  is not dependent on others words,

And learn   to appreciate   yourselves   and your looks.

Do not get   upset that   you are not  a good talker ,

Tell those    who tell like that  , it is none of their business,

AS   you are able to convey your thoughts   and feelings ,

To all   the world   without any difficulty  whatsoever.

If some one tells you  that   you would not   be able to do it,

Or that   you do not know it , put in all efforts  ,

To do it or learn it and  perform it before him,

And see  to it that  he bends his   head in shame.

Do not ever   think that  you only are poor,

And also that  your life  is only full of sorrow,

Take a walk outside  and see  people  even struggling for food ,

And go to any hospital , to see  thousands who are more sad than you.

Never ever think that   you do not know   ,

And the person   whom you are facing knows everything,

If you ever think like   that, you would  forget everything

And never be able to talk coherently  with him or her.

You need not be a language  scholar   to   ask any question,

For most of the great questions   that changed the world,

Were not asked by    any language   scholar ,

But people who were curious and had faith in themselves.

If  you want to cry, do it in solitude and please understand,

That  there would be no one in the world to cry with you,

And  if no one loves you  , you are  not going to be affected,

But they  who have false ego would loose some one good like you,

Mother

Mother  

Dedicated   at the feet of all  mothers

By

P.R.Ramachander

(Though my own script , I got the idea from a post communicated in Whatsapp.Thanks to the author)

Yajur  Veda says  “All  mothers are God”,

Because   every mother giving birth ,

Suffering great pain becomes joyous ,

And indeed  becomes  a Goddess  to that child

Bhishma  Pithamaha a great intellectual  had said,

“Even when her child   becomes old and tottering,

And  he or she  has very many grand   children.

To the mother  he continues    to be a baby.”

He continued”There is no safer  place than mother ,

No one in the world has a more loving heart than her ,

And in fact  there is no protection to a person greater than her,

And that   is why she   is called  “Janani”meaning the mother

Sri Rama  told in Ramayana   that  , “Mother ,

As well as mother  land are much greater than heaven.”

Adhi Sankara   told in a moving  prayer, For all the sacrifices,

“For all you have done  to me, I could only give you  some uncooked rice”

 Thiruvalluvar  has written in his great book that,

The joy of mother  hearing that  her son is great,

Is much more than the joy she  felt when he or she    was born,

And it is true  no one becomes as happy as her  when we succeed.

Mother is Dhathri , the one who carries  the child

Mother is Janani, one who gives birth to the child,

Mother is Amba , one who gives nourishment to the child,

And mother is Shusroo  , the one who takes   care of the child.

Though home was  built by father , for us it  is  our mother’s home.

Kitchen is the place of toil  of mother , and her expected salary  is our love.

The beggar who calls “Oh mother” to get alms, is the Guru  of all psychiatrists.

When we  need any  thing to buy  , every child tells  its mother not father

When  rarely  father  and son laugh together, mother wipes .

Her eyes for the dust that  had not fallen and moves away.

It is these mothers   who fill up the bags  of  children going ,

To outside their  city , with love  soaked   unlimited  eatables.

When children need  to pay school fees  , they approach only their mother,

Because she will get it from father or give it herself and get chastised by their father.

Though  both parents are inside home , we only knock  the door and call “Mother”

In all poems written on mother at least  two wet marks of tears would be there.

The international   slogan of  all mothers  is “My child cannot tolerate   hunger.”

The  question she    would ask  the astrologer is “Would my children be happy?”

The prayer   that she  tells in any temple   all days and everywhere is”Take care of my child”

She is with us all  because  God wanted to be with us  and sent her  as his representative”

To grow a tree or son

To grow a tree  or son

Translated by

P.R.Ramachander

(such  things are rarely happening but  extremely rare)

I helped  a tree  grow,

It gave me shade to take rest,

It  gave me fruits   so that I can satiate my hunger,

And It gave me a walking stick 

When my legs lost their strength ,

And I needed help to walk.

I brought up a son,

He who never    gave me anything  ,

At last  bought    and gave me,

A letter  for admission to  an orphanage

Tamil poem from post of my friend  Rajagopalan  Srinivasan

மரம் வளர்த்தேன்
இளைப்பார நிழல் தந்தது,
களைப்பார
காயும்,கனியும்,தந்தது,
கால்கள்
பலம் இழந்தப்போது
ஊன்றி நடக்க
கோல்கள் தந்தது,,,,

மகனை வளர்த்தேன்
எதுவுமே தராதவன்
கடைசியாய்
வாங்கித்தந்தான்
அனாதைவிடுதியில்
அனுமதி கடிதம்,,, ?!

Understand that those steel(fe)males are different

Understand that those  steel(fe)males   are  different

By

P.R.Ramachander

( the basis  is a whatsapp  message .Thanks to original author.)

If a girl  moves   with a man closely  , she is a courtesan,

If she does not bother about men  , then she  is a snob,

And in general  , in the eyes   of men , all females are,

Half boiled semi cracks   who do not know  how to think

Has  any man thought  that the  Females  are steel(Fe) males,

Can any man understand   the pain suffered by them to make our species grow,

Has any man understood  the soft  maternal  side of a female,

That makes them undergo untold  sufferings  and insults with a smile.

To the men   they   are a  problem less sub species of homo sapiens,

Does any   men  know   that  when those females go out   ,

They are forced  to stifle  the preassures  of natures   call,

Unlike the males  and ultimately    suffer  urinary infections?

Do men  know that  when  females   travel or,

When they are   at work  during   those days,

They  undergo simple   torture  in not  being able to,

Open their bags  and  find a place  for the needed change

Do men know about the  pin pricks of men’s   stares,

That make females feel as  if they   are  walking,

Not on the streets  but on a shoe  of thorns,

Especially   when  their dress  is slightly  displaced.

Do  men know   how  those   iron clad ladies,

Suffer   , when they   walk  on a lonely road,

And have  necessarily  pass the   groups of men,

Whose  only  job seem  to lbe  oudly comment  on them.

Do  men know the  pain   that   a young mother ,

Undergoes,when their babies    cry during  ,

Travel or in a crowd     being unable  to feed,

Those   little  helpless ones, due to scarcity of privacy

Their struggle can never   be realized  by men,

For   they never ever  understand  these  small things,

Which  give females mega   mega sufferings,

For  men  have  never undergone any of these.

A humble request to all men, you  need not  respect them ,

But allow them to walk in their path in a peaceful manner ,

And let  all men  take an oath  that  they would   treat those

Females as suffering friends  who ought  to be  treated  well,

And give them same respect that  they give to their sister  and mother.

Let them  take a resolution   that  they would never ever,

Indulge  in  violence   against females nor ever only think,

About them as a  toy  which is  meant  to entertain them,

And let them decide  “I will respect feminineness “

And they would always   be real   human beings  .

When she says ,” I keep quite at home”, he is speechless

When she says ,” I keep quite  at  home”,  he is speechless

By

P.R.Ramachander

(Based  on a great tamil posting by my friend Rajagopal Srinivasan. Thanks to him

For a he says:-

When  I get up from bed , I see her struggling with fire  and smoke in the kitchen,

When I am cleaning my teeth,  I see her  cleaning the vessels,

When I am collecting news from TV, I see her  cleaning the dust from my home,

When I am cleaning my body  , I see her removing dirt from our  clothes,

When I  fill up my stomach , I see her filling up vessels with water,

When  I get dressed  to go to office, I see her  dressing  up children to go to school,

When I return from office, I see her still working   in the kitchen,

When I am retiring to sleep , she  after checking up lamps, bolts and blanket of children  falls  on our bed,

Every week end and every festival   are holiday for us , I have never seen having a single holiday,

When we are enjoying celebrations in relative’s homes, I see her taking care  of our needs

She   has   the answer  to all questions of  schools and colleges, and help  children  with homework

When we  have sad  events , I see  her shedding tears  for the sake of all of us

WE do not know  where   the God is   for  it is she who  represents us before god,

I feel hesitant to tell you  all  that  I do work, after  hearing  her  answer  to a  data collector,

When he asked her  , “Are  you working madam?” and she answered, “No sir,  I am idle at home.”

Let us change our lives by changing words

Let us change our lives by changing words

By
Poet Vairamuthu

Translated by
P.R.Ramachander

(To the person who posted in Whatsapp thanks. No words are Okay to thank the great poet)

“Kill , rob “, Words most heard in history,
“Hug, kiss,” words most heard by a cot,
“Little darling, useless one “ , words most heard by cradles,
“How can you ever get married?” words most heard by a courtesan,
“Learn by heart, you would never improve”, words most heard in class rooms,
“If there is one more birth”, words most heard in parks,
“See the face for one last time”, words heard most in crematorium,
“I bet, I take an oath”, words most heard in political platforms,
“Rivers of milk, rivers of honey”, words most heard by aam adhmi,
“Post letters without forgetting”, words most heard in railway platforms,
“Father is angry”, words most heard by children,
“Please pardon me”words most heard in Europe ,
“Could you not have come yesterday”, words most heard by those who ask for loan,
‘Now it is God’s will” words most heard by hospitals,

Sufficient sir, more than sufficient
Washing on the same stone, these words have lost their colour,
Now let us clean the cobwebs from these words,
Now let us change the position of these words,
Now let us give some oxygen to all these words,
If we change the word, then the life will change

First let us save words from life and then save the meaning from those words
Taking in to consideration length and breadth of life, let us elongate or shorten those words

Instead of the word,”He is dead”, let us praise “He has won over the life”,
Let us loose the word”defeat” and say ”Victory is standing far off”
What is the need for word “Enemy” , we will say , “Friend who is far distant”
If couples quarrel, we will say “ crude love”
If we see leafless branches we will say “Start of the next spring”
If some body dies of sickness we will say , “His body is taking rest “
If ink falls on a white shirt , We will say, “Pure white all around blue”
If the sky does not have moon , we will say , “Pretty sky full of stars”

Let all negative words fall down from the tree
Let positive words , get new life and roam about
Let us pull out all old worlds and transplant them in new land
When the sour words change , Suddenly the boring life would also change
Vaira Muthu

POem by Poet Vairamuthu

'கொல்' 'கொள்ளையடி'
சரித்திரம் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''தழுவு'' ''முத்தமிடு''
கட்டில்கள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''ஆராரோ'' ''சனியனே''
தொட்டில்கள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''உனக்கெப்போது கல்யாணம்?''
விலைமகள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''உருப்போடு'' - உருப்படமாட்டாய்''
வகுப்பறைகள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''இன்னொரு ஜென்மம்
என்றொன்றிருந்தால்''
பூங்காக்கள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''கடைசியாய் எல்லாரும்
முகம்பார்த்துக் கொள்ளுங்கள்''
மயானங்கள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''சவால் விடுகிறேன் - சபதம் செய்கிறேன்'
மேடைகள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

'பாலாறு - தேனாறு'
பொதுஜனம் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''மறக்காமல் கடிதம் போடு''
ரயிலடிகள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''அய்யா குளிக்கிறார்''
தொலைபேசி அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

'அப்பா கோபமாயிருக்கிறார்'
குழந்தைகள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

'தயவுசெய்து' - 'மன்னியுங்கள்'
ஐரோப்பா அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

''நேற்றே வந்திருக்கக் கூடாதா''
கடன் கேட்போன் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

'இனிமேல் ஆண்டவன் விட்ட வழி'
மருத்துவமனைகள் அதிகம் கேட்ட வார்த்தைகள்

போதுமடா சாமி!
போதும்! போதும்!

ஒரே கல்லில் துவைத்துத் துவைத்துச்
சாயம் போயின வார்த்தையின் நிறங்கள்

இனி ஒவ்வொரு சொல்லையும்
ஒட்டடை தட்டுவோம்

இனிமேல் வார்த்தைகளை
இடம் மாற்றிப் போடுவோம்

அத்தனை சொல்லிலும்
ஆக்சிஜன் ஏற்றுவோம்

வார்த்தை மாறினால்
வாழ்க்கை மாறும்

முதலில்
வாழ்க்கையிலிருந்து
வார்த்தையை மீட்போம்
பின்னர்
அர்த்தத்திலிருந்து
வார்த்தையை மீட்போம்

வாழ்வின் நீள அகலம் கருதி
வார்த்தைகளிலும் நாம்
மழித்தல் நீட்டல் செய்வோம்

மரித்தான் என்ற சொல்லை யெறிந்து
வாழ்வை வென்றான் என்று புகழ்வோம்

தோல்வி என்னும் சொல்லைத் தொலைத்து
விலகி நிற்கும் வெற்றி
என்றுரைப்போம்

எதிரி என்ற வார்த்தை எதற்கு?
தூரத்து நண்பன் சொல்லித் திளைப்போம்

சதிபதி இருவர் சண்டைகள் இட்டால்
முரட்டு அன்பென்று மொழிந்து பார்ப்போம்

இலைகள் கழிந்த கிளைகள் கண்டால்
அடுத்த வசந்த ஆரம்பம் என்போம்

நொந்த தேகம் நோயில் விழுந்தால்
உடம்பே கொள்ளும் ஓய்வென்றுரைப்போம்

வெள்ளைச் சட்டையில் மைத்துளிபட்டால்
மையைச் சுற்றிலும் வெண்மையென்போம்

நிலவைத் தொலைத்த வானம் என்பதை
விண்மீன் முளைத்த விண்வெளி என்போம்

எதிர்மறை வார்த்தைகள்
உதிர்ந்து போகட்டும்

உடன்பாட்டு மொழிகள்
உயிர் கொண்டெழட்டும்

பழைய வார்த்தைகள் பறித்துப் பறித்துப்
புதிய நிலத்தில் பதியன்போடுவோம்

புளித்த வார்த்தைகள் மாறும்போது
சலித்த வாழ்க்கையும்
சட்டென்று மாறும்

-வைரமுத்து

Do not make our country a land of orphans

Do not make our country  a land of orphans

(Possibly some of you may think this is an exaggeration .But it is not ,Our girls getting married very late  and then get their only child still later.Many of them do not have any child .So  inspite of our country  not introducing one child norm like China(after 37 years experimentation  they withdrew it) , we  are implementing it. This article shook me to the chore .Are our children marching fast to becme a generation of orphans?)

By

P.R.Ramachander

(The entire material is borrowed from  the  tamil speech of M.Porchelvi   in a debate   which was  posted by  ny friend Rajagopalan Srinivasan .It was with tears  that  I read it and wrote this.  Each and every relation that I have mentioned has a word in every Indian languages.(I am reproducing  the tamil word  as given n the face book  post of my friend . Each of them  have a great role to play  in our  joy and sorrow.Just  for a minute , I imagined a  world without them  and I felt extremely bad, One child norm is going  to create   a land  of rich orphans)

Words    indicating   relations in Indian languages like,

Elder brother , younger brother , younger sister  ,

Junior elder brother  , Senior   elder brother  ,

Junior elder  sister  , senior elder   sister  ,

Father’s  younger brother   and elder brother ,

Paternal aunt  , maternal uncle ,

Husband’s brother  and sister, Elder brother’s wife  ,

Wife’s brother   and sister , Paternal cousin  brother,

Paternal  cousin sister  , Paternal  aunt’s daughter   and son,

Maternal  uncle’s daughter   as well as son ,

(அண்ணன், தம்பி, அக்கா, தங்கை, சின்ன அண்ணன், பெரிய அண்ணன், சின்ன அக்கா, பெரிய அக்கா,
சித்தப்பா, பெரியப்பா, அத்தை, மாமா, மச்சான், மச்சினி, அண்ணி, கொழுந்தனார், நாத்தனார், தாய்மாமன், சித்தப்பா பையன், சித்தப்பா பொண்ணு,
பெரியப்பா பையன்,
பெரியப்பா பொண்ணு,
அத்தை பையன்,
அத்தை பொண்ணு, மாமன் பொண்ணு,
மாமன் பையன்,)

Would not fall  on the  ears  of any one , fifty  years later,

For no one would  have  any such relations in India,

And slowly words for such relations   would vanish from Indian  language dictionaries.

The reason   for this  is  that most  of the families ,

Have decided  to adopt   the  one child norm,

And how can these   relations   continue to exist,

When no one has   a brother   or sister.

After  this   there   would not be  maternal uncles ,

For celebrating  his nieces   attaining  majority,

There would not be  elder brothers   to Hoist,

The first  pillar during  marriage of his sister ,

There would not be younger brothers,

To put a ring  to  the groom of his elder  sister,

There  would not be   mother’s brother for any children

To keep little ones  on his lap  during their first head shave,

There would  not be younger  or elder brothers ,

To rush to   the help of any married   girl in trouble,

And each and every girl  are going   to sob their heart out,

With no  relations or brothers to wipe away  their  tears,

And each and every man   , when facing any crisis in life ,

Is  going to find that  there are no siblings   to bale him out,

After  this like the   bird developing   wings and flying away ,

When the only child  of the family  goes  his way for a job,

Or go away   after  marriage   with their partner  ,

For leading    a life  where  privacy  is more important  ,

All parents  like orphans  would be either put  in an old age home,

Or   rot and  die  alone with no one to care,   in their   palatial own homes.

This is definitely   going to happen to every one in India,

Who are adopting  the one child norm  ,

Aimed at enhanced  prosperity ,

Without bothering about  the banyan tree of shade,

That can only   be provided  by  chains  of relations.

If you  one day become sick in your lonely home  ,

Should you not have some   relation nearby,

Who would  postphne all his work and engagements  ,

And rush    to help you  , in that time of dire need?

It is those  sons of ours   who quarrel ,

Among themselves   for getting  even little things,

Who would  with tears  in their   eyes,

And anguish in their  heart , rush to your help, when you are in need

Even our daughters , engaged  in employment,

Looking after   their husbands , children and family,

Would throw  away all that  in a jiffy  and be by your side,

If  either  one of you   is  sick or in need  of help.

Just for once   do think of your  last days,

You  would  not be an orphan  without money,

But you would definitely  be one   without relations.

Are you  not  engaged   in bringing   up an orphan child ,

Without any relations   except   you in this earth ,

With  millions of bank balance , bunglow,

Chauffer   driven  car  and  modern gadgets all around him,

For  your dying  like an orphan and he also  having  the same  fate.

You are all  struggling to earn  an orphan filled   India 

The temple which is open only for a few days during Deepavali (Hasanamba temple , Hassan)

The temple which is open only  for a few  days during Deepavali (Hasanamba temple  , Hassan)

Compiled  by

P.R.Ramachander

(One of my sisters  of face book  called  Smt Bhavani Mangalam   requested me to write   whatever I know of this temple. I am dedicating this small article to her.)

   Hassan is an important town in Karnataka. One of the important temples is that of Hasanamba  (The mother of Joy) This is a temple dedicated  to Goddess  Durga. Strangely  the deity inside  the temple  is represented  by an ant hill. The following is the belief.

    Once upon a time   the seven Mathrukas   viz  Maheswari, Kaumari  , Vaishnavi  , Indrani and Chamundi   came floating  to the southern part of India . They were captivated  by the beauty  of Hassan  and decided to make that town their home.  While Maheswari, Kaumari   and Vaishnavi decided   to live in  three anthills  , Brahmi decided to live in a place called  Kenchamma’s hoskote  in the  town   And Indrani , Varahi  and Chamundi   chose to live in three   wells  in Devegere Honda , The presiding deity, Maheswari among them took the name of Hasanamba (The mother who is smiling)  and the town was called as Hassan (old name Simhasanapuri)  in her honour.   The temple is open only for a few days during deepavali  . It opens on the Thursday next to Full moon day in the month of Aswija(October-November) and closes  on the Bali Padyami day i.e Prathama thithi following Deepavali festival. Several miracles   are believed to happen in this temple.Some of them are

1.The flowers offered t the deity do not fade and the lamp lit  before closing never gets puts out till the next year  when the  tample opens.

2.There was once a suffering daughter in law devotee to the Goddess who was tortured by her mother in law. Once the mother in law threw a stone at her daughter in law  and she was greatly hurt. When she appealed to the Goddess , she turned her in to a sone . This stone is in front of her  and it is believed  that it keeps moving nearer  to the Goddess . Devotees also believe , that once the stone reaches the Goddess Kaliyuga would end.

 3.It is also believed  that four robbers wanted to steal  the treasure of the temple and the goddess  turned them in to stones.Some people call the temple as Kallappana gudi( the temple of men turned in to stones)

      The structure seen at the entrance of Hasanamba temple is a temple dedicated to Lord Shiva locally called Siddheshwara. It is renowned for its self-manifested linga. There's also an interesting idol of a nine-headed Ravana playing the Veena here. Honouring the devout nature of Ravana, every new moon day people gather at the temple. The annual chariot festival also takes place on the closing day of the Hasanamba temple during Deepavali.

      This year the temple has opened on 12^th October 2017  and would be open till October 21^st. The  temple would be closed daily from 1.30 PM to 2.30 PM , In this short period , it is expected that  about a million devotees would visit the temple.

Enjoy seeing a video about the temple  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQow2CIgXqA

Do not make family wait , says dead mother to her son

Do not make  family wait  , says dead  mother  to her son

By

P.R.Ramachander

(based on a write up in Whatsapp.Thanks to the original author)

One day Malini’s husband   too her to an ice cream parlour

And Malini asked her husband ,”I wanted to ask you something”

“Go ahead “ her  husband told  and she asked “There is some change in you,

You come d from office  early, help me  by sharing  umpteen items of my work,

And more that  , I feel  recently you have   become   very close   to me.How come”

And he replied, “Dont be silly  , I have not changed   a bit ,”

Malini seriously asked, Dont hide, Have you fallen in love  with some one else?

And is your sudden behaviour change    due to guilt ?”

He  felt sad and he opened his diary took out a paper  and gave it to her and said “Read”

She opened   and found that  it was a long letter  from his mother ,

Addressed  to him  and she said  in it , “I am writing  this long letter,

When I was  a wife to your father   and I know  it is very long,

But please  do read it   with attention  for I want to tell you.”

“When I married your father   , I was a professor  in a college ,

But after you were born, your father  started becoming  very lucky,

And  got  completlly immersed  in his  real estate  business,

And as per his wish, I resigned my job, to look after the  house.”

“Your father  got drowned  in the dream of earning  more and more money,

And after this my life instead  of pleasure   was filled  with nothing but waiting,

He used to go very early   and come very late  and you and your sister  were  my only friends,

Then you  both started  going to school and I used to wait for you  to come back.”

“After you return   you both  would tell the story of  day to day  happenings,

IN the school   and as a teacher , I knew   that  more than half were lies.

You  both further grew up   and slowly you found that  you have nothing  to tell to me,

Then you started going out  and when you would be back, only God knew  and I would wait.”

“Then t your father became sick  and I had to look after  him,

I used to give physiotherapy   and then I   was forced  to wait,

AS he was  not in a mood to speak  to me  and then one day,

WE gave your sister  un marriage and then I had to take permission to talk to her,”\

“You took up the  business  of your father  as he was often sick,

And even then he  never  used to speak to me  , He  used to read,

He used  to eat  and he used   to sleep as  he had never knew,

On what aspect he should talk to me  and thus I lead my silent life.

Whenever  I used to go out  , I used to notice  this longing ,

Of Companionship in the eyes of ladies as old as  me,

And I used to see  young ladies  talking without stop to their husbands,

On the  holidays when they used to come out  as they knew ,

That  for one  more session of talk  , they have to wait  for six more days.

You must be wondering , why I am telling   all these  to you,

I failed with your father as he never heard what I talked ,

Even when I was alive  I was not able to tell    all this to you,

As you were busy like your father and thought That I was wasting your time.

So after  my death  I wanted   you to hear  all that I wanted to tell,

You have a wife and a daughter   who are   waiting   to you at home,

You do not know hiw much your sister  loved   your father  ,

But at the time she   was ready to show it , he was bedridden.

He was so busy that  no one her school knew that he was her father,

All her dreams    of visiting various places  along with her father   were sgattered,

And when he wasa bed ridden and had  only time   with him,

She was not able to talk with him, as she  had gone to her husband’s home  .

Please for god’s sake do not  punish   your daughter like that,

So not make your wife   write a similar  letter to her son,

You have sufficient money    to lead   a peaceful life.

And in fact what you have saved is   suffeceint for you three  for the rest of your life,

You are struggling in your office  to make more and more money,

So that    you will leave  lot of money to your children,

I have a humble request   do not blow more air  in to the balloon of your dreams,

Come back early , give time to your wife and daughter,

Because  it is an unspeakable   to make others  wait   .

Though it was a posh parlour  , his wife was sobbing ,

She knew   that  the torture  of waiting  is over for her,

She knew  that  her husband has realized  that he has erred,

And she thanked her late   mother  in law   for that,

Letter from a married daughter to her mother

Letter  from a married  daughter   to her mother

By

P.R.Ramachander

(Completly based on the post of my friend  Rajagopal  Srinivasan .Thanks to him)

Dearest  mother  mine , just like ,

Every one else I got married  to him,

Whom I liked , with your consent ,

And expected life to be a sweet dream.

Only now I realize   that my life   really starts,

Only  after   the “end”  slide is shown in the cinema,

I came to know   there  is much more things  in being,

What is desired in life and about that  some one desiring you.

How  many responsibilities  , burdens ,

Expectations    and sacrifices  it  involves  was unknown to me,

For example I am not able to have a late morning wake up,

And am forced to get up in dawn and start my work before others wake up.

When I was with you , I used to fly in dresses  that I liked,

But now they want me to wear   dresses that they  like,

I used to simply vanish telling   you , I have to meet a friend,

But nowadays  , I have  to change my programme  according to others needs.

I am not able to sleep when I want  ,

Watch the   TV serial   which I like  ,

And Some times  I feel  married life is boring ,

For Have I not sacrificed my freedom   for its sake.

Was I not    flying  with joy when I was with you,

Some times I even  feel like  coming   back to you  ,

I want to lie on your lap  and make you  force me  ,

To eat  at the proper time and make you prepare  all  sweets that I like.

I feel  that without any worry , I should  be,

Enveloped  in your dear hug  and talk all nonsense with you,

But Suddenly I start  thinking  that you too  ,

Would have  undergone all   these sufferings in your life,

Had you thought like  me, would I have been there,

Should I not return your toil, sufferings   and affection,

I know that  even this thought  , I have  learnt from you,

And when I think like that  Life seems to be easy  and not hard.

AS times go by  , I also would   start loving my family ,

I would become   ready to make  sacrifices like you,

The mental strength we gave you, would be  given to me by my family,

And So Sweet Mummy , I have become  ready to give like you.

Affectionately  yours

Your pet   daughter

Words have not changed but who tells whom has changed

Words have not changed  but  who tells whom  has changed

By

P.R.Ramachander

   9Based on a facebook post  of Vasantha  Krishnaswamy in face book.)

Once upon a time

    The mother used to tell  her daughter while bidding her  farewell to her  husband’s home:-

Do not talk unnecessarily

Be a good daughter  in law there

Adjust your  life to  his home

Get good name

Nowadays

    The daughter   tells her mother  while bidding  her farewell  to her   son’s home:-

Do not talk unnecessarily

Be a good  mother in law  there

Adjust your  life to  his home

Get  a good name

Interview with God

Interview  with God

By

P.R.Ramachander

(I read this in Tamil  in Whatsapp.To the great author my pranams)

One journalist   of a  modern TV  channel,

Went to heaven and the first thing  he wanted,

Was to interview  the  God   himself   and,

Without any fuss  God gave  him time immediately.

Journalist asked,”What makes you surprised about human beings?”

God laughed and told, “They do not want to  be babies and want to grow up  , but after  growing up , they live  more like babies,

They sacrifice their health  for money and loose money to regain their health ,

They are worried always  about  their future , forgetting  about  their present

So they do not have past or future,

Also They live not to die and die  without really living”

Journalist asked  again “What advices  you want to give your children on earth?”

God said  “Ten plus  one advices ”  and listed  them:-

1.“Dear child, do not ever want to be loved  but live in such a way  that others love you,

2.The  amount  of wealth  that you have earned is not important  , but how you earned it , is,

3.Never ever compare  one with the other   or one person    with another  ,

4.Do not think the person  who has everything is rich but understand that only one who does  not want anything is rich,

5.It takes only few seconds to hurt any one who loves us, but the curing of the hurt  takes very long,

6.Know that  It is true that  many people who love us do not know  how to express it  .

7.Know  that with money you can buy everything , for instance  happiness  can never be brought  .

8.Understand   that every person has  his own way of knowing  or understanding things.

9.Understand that a friend knows all your friends  abd circumstances  and also loves you.

10.It is not suffecient if you  know how t pardon others, you should also know how to pardon yourselves.