Miserable journey of boy to old man
(Based on the Tamil write up of Padmanabhan Krishnamurthy. Thanks to him. True.It is slight exaggeration and very male centric .Excuse me for that)
When a boy is born , sweets are exchanged,
And every one fondles him and his mother cherishes him,
He would be like an unchained bird till he attains age of ten,
And his story after that is full of burden and tragedy.
When he is in high school, parents warn him ,
That if he does not study well , he will not get seat in college,
And once he is admitted in college they warn him hourly,
Unless he studies well, he will not get admission in engineering.
After he struggles and gets admission in engineering,
They keep on reminding him, that , he has taken a loan to study,
And unless he gets a good job, he would not be able to clear the loan,
Would not be able to help family in marrying off his sister and so on and on.
Then after getting a job, living in a hopeless PG, always worried,
About burden of parents and for helping them fulfil their dreams,
Taking meals in a way side hotel, travelling in a rocking rickety bus,
And putting on a smiling face before his parents, they spend their time.
By the time he repays the loan and sees to it that sister is married,
The parents , get worried that , their son is suffering alone and,
Arrange a marriage for him and show off before their bride’s family,
That they are also rich, by making the boy apply for a loan from his office.
Suppose after marriage , he shows love to his wife ,
His family will say , that he has fallen in her net strongly,
But if he shows a soft corner towards his own parents,
This wife will cry that ,they are everything and she is nothing for him.
He is not supposed to tell his wife about problems in office,
And he is not at all supposed to tell about the volcanoes at home,
To anyone outside and supposed to bend and adjust in both places,
And he is also suppose to be a social human being in love with his relatives .
After the initial life of love becomes a dream and a sore torture,
After every time laughing when mentally tortured by wife as well as parents,
After trying to obey the wife , after trying to look after his parents,
Getting bad name from both from wife as well as parents, he becomes a lunatic of sorts.
After he becomes a father to children and tries to fulfil,
Their desires too to the extent possible his wife would call him a miser,
And She would tell her friends that she is suffering , because ,
She has a married to a morose short tempered brute, and then also he should smile.
Festivals would come and he would struggle and suffer ,
To get new cloths to all his family members except of course himself,
His relatives would celebrate functions like marriage and if he presents,
Some small affordable thing and the whole world would call him useless.
If one of their long term acquaintances buys a car or a house ,
His wife would say,” See those people who are real males ,
Unlike you, who cannot maintain his family properly,
I do not know what great sin I did in last life to become your wife.”
If he is strict and disciplined with his children , she will say,
That he does not have even a drop of affection to them,
And if he is not strict with them then also she will say that ,
He does not know how to bring up children at all.
If his parents become very old and bed ridden she will shout,
“Is it my job, what have they given to me , so either ,
Send them to your brother’s home or old age home,
And if he does , he would be called a modern day Rakshasa by society.
Whatever a man does all his life , all blames would come to him,
And every moment of his life would be filled with misery and mental torture,
And he would never understand , how he deserved all that,
In spite of carrying the responsibility of a family from birth to death.