Come what may , how can mother be an ill omen?
(It had been practice among most of us , that a widowed mother is not supposed to participate in the marriage of her children. Though this custom has almost faded away from most of our families, there was a report about such an incident in a newspaper (16th july) and Here is an emotional appeal to correct this anachronism , penned in Tamil by the reporter (from post of my friend Anantha Narayanan-thanks to him )
When a mother who has lost her husband,
Feeds her baby , did we say that,
It is an act of ill omen and not desirable,
And that we will feed her little baby?
When a motherwho has lost her husband ,
Sends her children to school to study ,
Did we say that it is an ill omen,
And we shall send them to school.
When the mother who has lost her husband ,
Offers dowry and presents to the groom,
Did we say that is an ill omen ,
And so we do not want them from her.
But when the mother who has lost her husband,
Comes to see her children getting happily married,
How come we say that is an ill omen ,
And see to it that even her shadow does not fall there.
But when the father who has lost his wife ,
After arranging the marriage and comes to attend it,
How come we do not say that it is act of ill omen,
But say it is very appropriate and is very desirable.