It is time that all of us do something to get our children married. 2.Desirable qualities in groom and bride
Nothing much can be done about any of these except “GRIN and BEAR IT”
Times are changing fast .When I got married almost 50 years back , People were searching for a graduate belonging to a good family, preferably from families which are united and help each other .The age difference was 8-9 years. Normally girls used to get married at the age of 21-24 and boys between 28-31. It was grooms and their fathers who used to dictate the terms .
Nowadays things have changed:-
1.Girls prefer to get married when they are around 25 with a boy who is not more than 3 years older than them. Grooms prefer to get married around 29 . They do not have any say in determining the age difference between them and the bride .
2.Since the number of brides available are less most of the brides get married before they reach 28 or 29 years age .It is extremely difficult for a boy over 30 to find a suitable bride.
3.Even about 10 years back Brides used to prefer a groom working abroad .For some reason this has changed sharply, with brides not interested in settling abroad.
4.Previously grooms with professional degrees had a premium but nowadays there is premium to soft ware engineers preferably from IITS , MBAs from IIMs , those who have completed their C.A.Final, those who have completed their post graduate degrees in Medicine
Grooms with any other qualification including umpteen branches of Engineering , MBAs from colleges which are not IIMs , Business men, artists , priests with very high income , Cooks running millions out of Catering b business etc are not preferred as grooms
Most of the grooms want brides to be as pretty as a heroine , very rich family back ground and those who are employed, . They do not want a bride without brothers.Those without siblings are not at all preferred
5.Grooms with baggage(their parents with them) are not preferred. Brides with no siblings are not preferred. Brides born in Gannandha Nakshatrams like Moolam and Ayilyam, and those with Kala SArpa dosham are again in the not preferred category. Brides bred up in cities do not prefer grooms brought up in villages.Grooms without Vehicles are not in the preferred category
6. All grooms want their partners to earn less than them and besides back breaking work in the office , they should take care of all the work of the house including cooking.
7.Brides want their grooms to be of less age than their elder sisters husband and also earn more than them. There was a time when smoking or drinking was considered as undesirable habit for grooms but now these habits are considered as fashionable.
8.Another reasonable demand by brides is that they insist that they be allowed to help their parents with their salary.
I invite all of you to read this and contribute more info.