It is time that
all of us do something to get
our children married. 2.Desirable qualities
in groom and bride
By
P.R.Ramachander
Nothing much can
be done
about any of these except
“GRIN and BEAR IT”
Times are changing
fast .When I got married almost 50 years back
, People were searching for
a graduate belonging to
a good family, preferably from families
which are united and help
each other .The age difference was
8-9 years. Normally girls used to
get married at the age of 21-24 and boys between 28-31. It was
grooms and their fathers who used
to dictate the terms .
Nowadays things
have changed:-
1.Girls prefer to get married when they are around
25 with a boy who is not more than 3
years older than them. Grooms
prefer to get married around
29 . They do not have any say
in determining the age difference between them and the bride .
2.Since the number of brides available are less most of the brides get married before
they reach 28 or 29 years age .It
is extremely difficult for a boy over 30 to find a suitable bride.
3.Even about 10 years back Brides used to prefer a groom working abroad .For some reason this has changed sharply, with brides not interested in settling abroad.
4.Previously
grooms with professional degrees had a premium but nowadays there is premium to soft ware engineers preferably from IITS ,
MBAs from IIMs , those who have
completed their C.A.Final, those who have completed their post graduate degrees in
Medicine
Grooms with any other qualification including umpteen
branches of Engineering
, MBAs from colleges which
are not IIMs , Business men, artists
, priests with very high income ,
Cooks running millions out of Catering b
business etc are not preferred as grooms
Most of the
grooms want brides to be as pretty as
a heroine , very rich family back
ground and those who are employed, . They do not want a bride without brothers.Those without siblings are not at
all preferred
5.Grooms with baggage(their parents with them) are not
preferred. Brides with no siblings are
not preferred. Brides born in Gannandha Nakshatrams like Moolam and
Ayilyam, and those with Kala SArpa
dosham are again in the not
preferred category. Brides bred up in cities do not prefer grooms brought up in villages.Grooms without Vehicles are not in the preferred
category
6. All grooms want their partners to earn less than them and besides back breaking work in the
office , they should take care of all the work of the house including cooking.
7.Brides want their grooms to be of less
age than their elder sisters
husband and also earn more than them. There was a time when smoking or drinking
was considered as undesirable habit for grooms but now these
habits are considered as
fashionable.
8.Another reasonable demand by brides is that
they insist that they be allowed to help their parents with their salary.
I invite all of
you to read this and contribute more info.
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