How to deal with problem of Thathas and Pattis

How  to deal   with problem of Thathas  and Pattis

By

P.R.Ramachander

One great  problem  with all  young ones,

Is  the irritation caused by  Thathas  and Pattis,

By their so called  uncalled  for advices,

By their constant   complaints and criticisms.

 A.Request  to Thathas  and Pattis

Thathas  and Pattis   should   remember that  ,

The   earth rotates  with speed and changes,

And   the present world that they are  in,

Is not at all  the   world   they were  brought up

They should remember  that   their   son and Daughter in law,

Are living in a  world   which is  filled   with tension,

And in these   tsunami   of life  that they lead ,

They may  many times   fail  in  their duties   towards   elders .

Old age  is a proper time for  Thathas   and Pattis  ,

To start   religious activities   but   they should,

Know that  they started it   when they became old,

And so too  their son   would do it  when he becomes old.

A humble    request    to Thathas  and Pattis ,

Please  do not interfere  in the  life of young ones ,

By ramming in to their life    your  own ideas,

But do tell them what  you think, if they ask.

B. Request   to sons and daughter   in laws

Thathas and Pattis  do not   expect   AC rooms,

Privacy  , car   at their command  etc   for them,

But   what all they need   is  a humble love ,

Please ask about their welfare in the morning  and evening.

Most of them feel terribly  lonely    as their friends ,

And close relations   live far    away   and so  ,

It would be great if children can   help them  to contact ,

Their friends   and   relatives    frequently   by phone  ,

By providing them a separate land line  and also a cell  phone.

As youngsters several friends   of yours  as well as your wife’s

would be  visiting you often , If you do not mind  ,

Please introduce them to your parents   to talk some sweet nothings

And tell  your friends  , that you are lucky to have parents like them.

Thathas and Pattis    by their  inability due to their   age,

Are very touchy  about criticisms    and being jeered   at,

Do not please tell them  they   are   useless  for anything at any time,

Or they forget everything  always or  that without you they cannot live

Most of the   Thathas   and Pattis    would   be affected  ,

By very many health problems, please see   to it,

That  they undergo frequent health check ups  ,

AS well as   see to it that they take  their medicines regularly

Encourage   thathas   and Pattis   to   constantly  use ,

Cell phones and lap tops  and if  they are  interested,

Arrange to teach them to paint   , tell stories, teach cooking , maths    etc,

And  in their hearing  tell your children , how great they were.

One of the major problem for them    is to spend time,

Depending on their health  , request them to pay  current bills,

Accompany children to school, Help   you in cooking  ,

Or cutting vegetables  or any such small   activities

Please  provide  money to the Thathas   and Pattis,

Some money for expenditure   either    from their pension,

Or your own savings   so that  they can happily   give presents,

To your children  or present knick knacks   to their dear guests

Please   consult them when  are taking important decisions,

For   they  have   huge cache   of great experience,

And have   suffered   and struggled when they were like you,

And some times   they may come out with brilliant ideas