One does not want our one because we had only one
Once upon a time there was no family planning being practiced in India. Every home had several siblings –some of them male and some female .Most of the families were poor or lower middle class . There was a great competition among brides and grooms to get married in homes with only one son . This was because they thought that all the money earned by the parents of that person would come to him . No one ever thought that parents would be a burden to them
In fact if a person did not look after his parents the whole society shunned him . Most of the children were very much dependent on their inherited wealth
Then the concept of family planning was introduced.People came to know that if they have less children , then their earned assets would go to few children and so ecomically their children would progress .The govt said , “we two, ours two” Within a short time most of the Brahmins became upper middle class .They educated their few children (one or two) extremely well.Soon the children became rich , Initially , thinking that daughters would go away to other families , the family spent money on educating sons only .With sons becoming rich , they started supporting their parents and sisters,So soon all children got educated well and became financially well off and self dependent.
A stage came when neither a son nor the daughters were interested in the inherited wealth . They were much , much richer than their parents and they wanted their children to further progress economically .So a new concept that , while it is the duty of parents to look after their children , it was not the duty of children to lok after their parents arose among children,.The parents however thought that their children should look after them as it was their duty.
In the present days most of the Brahmins had only one or two children . Some families have two sons, some two daughters , some one son and a daughter , some only one son and some one daughter only ,
This unfortunately affected the matrimonial choices of both boys and girls
1.No boy wanted to marry in a family where there are only one or two daughters.He started thinking that apart from his burden of looking after his parents, he has also to look after his parents-in-laws.Most of girls from such families told the groom that she would be giving her parents a part of her income to her parents and once she told this, the grooms rejected her.
2.No girl wanted to get married in to a family with either one son or a son and daughter .Her logic is that , her parents in law would become an exclusive burden on her .
Most of the parents promise such grooms and brides that they would live alone and would not be a burden for them.But the children do not have full trust in such words . They feel Parents would become old and helpless and then , they would become a burden on them.
This is an extremely serious issue in arranging marriage ,Is there any solution.?