A loving Mother’s tips to her son after marriage
(I got the idea of writing this in the form of a poem after reading a Tamil Write up about the advice that every mother should give it to her just married son by Jayaprakash Padma Siva Sankaran which was shared by my friend Suresh KR .I have definitely taken his idea but the approach and write up is definitely mine.)
1.My dear Son, who is dear to me,
Today you have got a companion,
Who is as young and bubbly as you,
And from tomorrow , she and you are your family
2.Before you start the day one of your life ,
As your mother who is your first Guru ,
I have to teach you a lot, about how,
You should treat your wife who is your friend.
3, I and she are the only women in your life ,
Whose only ambition is to make you happy,
And we both , though we had a life of our own before,
Would give up all that we have, for your sake.
4.Till now as you knew me as the only woman of your life,
Your mind would always tend to compare ,
Her, the new lady who has entered your life , with me ,
In looks, behavior and skills in cooking and home management.
5.By doing this you would be making your own life ,
Like a hell full of miseries , pain and troubles,
For I too was exactly like her twenty five years back,
As I lacked experience and knowledge and was similar to her.
6.Just like you, she before coming to this house as your wife,
Was an angel to her parents , who brought her up,
Without any care and were full of worries,
Even when a finger of their darling daughter pained.
7.For her to become like me , it would take time , because
For that she has to learn to be a wife to the demanding you,
For that she has to bring up her own children,
Which would make her a great wife and mother like me.
8.Please understand that your wife is not your mother,
Whose only main task in life till date was to look after you,
But she is your friend, who is going to be with you,
Through thick and thin and share all your cares
9.Please do not expect that love is a one sided coin,
It is a mutual journey of joy , pain , laughter and cares.
For it to succeed you both have to learn to respect ,
Each other and also make your mission to make your partner happy.
10. She has left her own home where she was a goddess,
To be with you so that she and you build up a new home,
Please try all that you can to make her feel that this home,
Is no different than her home , by possible change of yourselves.
11.Please know that everyday all your life you have to love her,
And understand that love for each other does not alter with age
Praising her dress and looks , praising the food that she has cooked,
Praising her ability to do things and happily laughing aloud are all parts of love.
12. To tell in a few words son, treat her always and always ,
The way that your father treated me all his life ,
Please love and respect her and learn to be a part,
Of her life, her chores , her worries and her anxieties.