Aanaikku oru kalam, Poonaikku oru kalam
Recently I have penned several such posts.All of them are not completely true. Yes, once upon a time (50 years back) it was the groom who used to put conditions but now they cannot afford to do so,
Once the grooms parents used to ask , “pretty very fair girls who have orthodox upbtingng along with huge dowry, well ornamented , specially with Vaira Thodu full seer varisai , silver vessels, grand marriage and so on and on endlessly.” But it is now the time for bride’s parents or brides to ask. Their demands are being exaggerated by groom’s parents. After some time they may ask “Sthri shulkam( dowry to girls) , full expenditure of marriage including ornaments and cloths to be borne by grooms parents etc etc” .Our forefathers have told, “Aanaikku oru kalam, vanthal Poonaikku oru kalam varum.”.
Tips to parents and grooms to get married
P.R . Ramachander
(This is based on the great Tamil write up by Hamsabai Santhana Krishnan. I have taken some independence while drafting it in English)
Parents of the groom either should be in heaven,
Or should eat in the marriage feast and should vanish forever
The groom should have a salary of more than seven lakhs ,
If itr is six, he should produce a certificate from his office that it would be made in to seven.
After marriage the girl would go and live in her parent’s home for ten days a month,
And during the rest twenty days , her parents would live in her home,
After marriage the girl would financially support her parents,
But grooms who need to do that would not be considered.
Oh grooms parents, If a girl consents for marriage ,
Immediately sign an agreement for above conditions,
And celebrate your sons marriage and post haste vanish,
And Oh girl’s parents , it is real time for you to enjoy.
Oh grooms cash in on her agreement and do not raise ,
Silly things like, mutual love , give and take and sacrifice ,
If your intention is to lead a married life .
Thinking or talking about these means you would be batchelor forever.