Psychology of attachment in a small family.
(My face book friend Hamsabai SAnthana Krishnan wrote of a similar game where only the wife plays it. I have expanded it as a game for the four adult members of the family. You may not agree with my conclusions and if so please tell the verse number and your conclusion of this four member game.)
1.One family counsellor was trying to teach ,
A group of middle age students about ,
Whom in the world they considered as most important,
And summoned a man, his wife , his father and his mother,
2.He had arranged for four different black boards ,
So that each of them did not know what others are doing.
And then he told each of them to write on the black board,
Names of thirty people whom they considered as important personally for them.
3.The four of them without spending much time wrote ,
Thirty names of people and the man apart from his family wrote his collegues,
The wife wrote apart from his and her family names of her own neighbours,
The father and mother wrote mainly names of their near relations , on both sides.
4. Counsellor asked each of them to remove five names from the board,
And without any hesitation they all did it in a jiffy.
And this process went on some more times
And in each board names of only five people were left.
5.The counsellor told each of them to remove one more name,
The man removed the name of his mother from the board,
The wife removed the name of her father in law,
The mother and father removed names of their grand son.
(why asked the counsellor?
Man said because my wife and ma quarrel with each other,
Wife said because his mother can look after the kid but not pa,
Mother and father told , we need son and daughter to look after us)
6.The counsellor asked them to remove one more name,
The man removed name of his father and she removed the name of his mother,
The father removed his wife’s name ,
And the mother removed her husbands name.
(why asked the counsellor ?
Man and wife told , we three wanted to live together,
Father said , even if she is not there , the others would look after me,
Mother said , even if he is not there , the others would look after me.)
7.Again the counsellor asked them to remove one more name,
Weeping and crying the man removed his wife’s name,
Weeping and crying the wife removed her son’s name,
And the father and mother removed the name of daughter in law.
(The counsellor asked the man , why?
And the man replied , I can get another wife,
The wife replied that she can possibly get a son but never a husband,
And the parents replied that their daughter in law ,
May not look after them, if their son is not there.)