Ten tips for husband and wife not to quarrel
(I have used the material posted from the net posted by my friend Balasubramanian Nannilam Ranganathan. I agree even hundreds of such tips cannot help the couple avoid their quarrels, if they do not love each other and both are willing to lead a life of give and take. But the tragedy is even they quarrel and these tips would definitely help them.)
1.In this world one of the great truths,
Is that , married couple quarrel,
With each other incessantly , and always ,
Making life miserable to both of them and to their family.
2.When we try to reason out why , we find,
That they both came from very different cultural back grounds,
The maturity level of both of them are different ,
And that no one in the world can agree with another always.
3.They both do not like the same dishes,
They both do not like their in laws,
They both do not like the same activity,
And possibly are loudly expressing in angry words,
Their disappointments in their love expectations and tiredness in office.
4.Some one has told nine nice tips to avoid all these.
He advices both not to get angry at the same time,
Ad to concede to the other when the others voice is loud,
And make the other feel that he has really won.
4.Thirdly he says each to welcome the other’s criticism,
With love and affection and not retort with another criticism.
Fourthly he advices them not to drag the past behavior ,
Of the other and jeer at the other and hurt him badly.
5.Fiftly he advices each of the couple to live for themselves,
And not lead a false and painful life for the sake of neighbours and relatives,
Sixthly he too agrees that argument is inevitable,
But he requests us to postpone it to some other time every day.
6.Seventhly he advices us to say to each other some loving word ,
Do some loving gesture like a hug or caressing at least once in a day,
And eighthly he advices both to acknowledge their mistake,
And beg for excuse from the other when the mistake is realized.
7.Ninthly He advices of them to behave according to circumstance,
And learn to adjust a bit to the other’s view , come what may,
And tenthly he want each of the couple who quarrel ,
To read these advices once per day , before starting the quarrel.