Dedicated to all Daughter in laws
A new daughter-in-law writes to her mother
(Every girl in the world undergoes the transplantation shock in a new environment, living with new people and finding their expectations to be different from what was expected from her in her old home. It gives a jolt, a shock and disappointment. Then she thinks of her Mummy and understands that she had done similar sacrifices to make her happy. She then gets established in the new environment and decides to make her family like what her mother did. SmtHamsabai Santhakrishnan had brought out this feeling in her write up in Tamil. My translation is a feeble effort. My thanks to her.)
My dearest mummy,
Like all other girls , with your consent,
I married the man who stole my heart ,
In a very luxurious and a great marriage,
Then only I understood that real life,
Starts after they put :”END” after the picture.
I understood that in life there are too many things,
Beyond being desired and our desiring some one else,
Responsibilities , Burdens, Expectations,
Sacrifices , Disappointments and so many others.
I am not able to wake up any day when I want ,
For I have to start my work before all others wake up ,
When I was with you , I was wearing what I liked ,
But now they want me to move about in what they like.
I used to tell you, I am off to see a friend and now,
My needs are being determined based on needs of others,
I am not able to sleep whenever I want and,
I am not able to see the any TV serial that I like.
Some times this marriage seems to me to be very tiring,
It has robbed my independence ,
It has stolen away myself from me ,
I was happy with you and sometimes,
I feel like leaving everything and returning to you.
I feel like sleeping with my head on your lap,
I remember those days when you chased me to eat an Idli,
I remember the times that you used to make ,
The sweets that I like and make me eat it again and again
The next moment I think about you and your feelings,
During the days when you were like me and the sacrifices that you made for me,
Had you thought like me during those days , I would not have had the life that you gave me
And then I want to compensate you for your sacrifices, toils and affection.
I then understand Mummy , that I should start ,
Loving my family like the way that you did and,
Start toiling for my new family and becoming ready ,
To do the same sacrifices that you did for my sake
Oh Mummy , I am sure Mummy that my new family ,
Would give me the strength of the mind that you had,
Would shower love and affection like we did on you.
Mummy , I have decided to work for them like you did.
Yours ever loving Daughter