Roadblocks in settling marriage alliances among Brahmins –I .Horoscope matching
( I belong to an ancient family odf astrologers but I am definitely not a great expert in that science. I know there are several very talented and professional astrologers in face book . I am sure many of them may not agree with what I say . I beg for their forgiveness.
But I am a member of great society of human beings . I some how have started feeling that matching of horoscopes is one of the most important factors that is an impediment in getting people married. Based on my experience I know that atleast about 90% couple who got married after matching horoscopes lead a comfortable married life but if due to this system a large number of people are not getting married , we need to take some action.)
All our Puranas contain a chapter on Astrology(Jyothisha) and one of the important aspects emphasized is horoscopes matching. The horoscopes are matched by examining:-
1.Whether there is Nakshatra porutham ?
2.Whether there is dosha samyam?
3.Whether there is dasa Sandhi?
Normally an astrologer who matches horoscopes also examine whether there is SAnthana BHagyam for both of them.NoW I would try to give a very short note of what all these would indicate?
This is mainly examined to find whether the groom and bride are physically and mentally compatible and whether they would adjust with each other.
This is examined to ensure that the couple who get married have a very long married life. About 60% horoscopes would not match according to this criteria for boys with Shuddha Jadagam and girl’s with chevvai dosham .
This is mainly examined to see whether difficult periods in life for the wife and husband occur at the same time.
Even when I was a child , every village used to have its own astrologers. None of the villagers would pay for consultation of horoscopes. But when the marriage is fixed , a substantial present iused to be given to the village astrologer. Those who own land would also give a certain measure of paddy at the time of harvest reaching their homes to the village astrologer.
With most of the agraharams becoming empty , these village astrologers migrated to towns. Many who got who good jobs still offer their services free of cost. Others have started to charge very heavily . To get more and more money there is a possibility that few of these professional astrologers keep on saying “Horoscopes do not match” till the parents become desperate and ask for Pariharam. Then very costly Pariharms which would be performed by astrologers themselves are prescribed. This made people scared of approaching astrologers. Many of them have already discontinued consultation with astrologer Some of them do down load software for match making (Which are most of the time wrong) and some think that the parents who initiate the proposals must have already seen to it.
Thus more than 50% people have already stopped matching of horoscopes. Since marriage is an important requirement of every human being , I feel it is time that we stop this practice altogether.