Control your anger by healing a small wound
(This is actually a tamil contribution of my friend J.K.Sivan who is doing great service to our Hindu religion by his very many publications and the Krishnarpanam society that he has established. I have taken his entire idea and rewritten it in my own words . Thanks my friend. May God bless you in your great journey. If my rewriting is inadequate pardon me.)
Ramu was a short tempered man ,
Each and every action of his dear wife ,
With whom he had spent twenty years,
Used to make him very angry and agitated.
Suppose he found a vessel kept on a table,
He would shout at his wife . “who kept it here?”
And suppose she tries to move it away,
He would shout “Would you move it only if I shout?”
Suppose she does not come and take away the vessel,
He would shout “Why have you not removed it,
In spite of my telling you ?Do you think I am mad?”
And then she would come running there there to take it .
He would shout ,”Why all this dancing and jumping?
If you have learnt it in your parents home,
I do not want to see it in my home?”
Then she would tell , “ Sorry , please pardon me.
With lot of hesitation and eye full of tears .
She would tell him , “Due to oversight I left it here,
It would not happen again. I am assuring it to you.”
He would shout , “ Oh you have learnt acting also in your home?”
While going to office , Ramu would feel extremely ,
Sad for treating his good wife in such a way.
He would return from office and his wife having a face,
Stained by tears due to her sobbing all the time.
He would again start shouting, “Is this the way,
To welcome a husband , coming from office?”
Life became miserable to Ramu’s wife .
And she did not know what to do.
Ramu’s wife knew his very close friend Kittu,
And she requested him to help her like a brother.
Kittu spoke to Ramu and convinced him,
To come along with him to his Guruji’s Ashram.
Kittu told his Guru that Ramu was losing his temper ,
Very often , without any possible reason and then Guru,
Asked Ramu, “Has any incident in your life hurt you?
You are not getting angry without any reason”
Ramu assured the Guru that his wife was a sterling lady,
And his children were also very good and ,
He only was behaving like a devil towards them,
The reason for which he is not able to know.
Then the Guru told , “Someone at some time ,
Must have hurt you and you are unable to forget it .
Possibly it would have been very minor one ,
Which in spite of your efforts you are not able to recall.”
Then the guru gave Ramu one small jug full of water,
And asked Ramu to hold it till he goes away from there.
And he enquired , whether it was heavy ,
And Ramu told “Not at all Guruji.”
Time passed quickly and Ramu was becoming uneasy,
Then Guru smiled and told him , “The jug is very tiny ,
But does it still hurt you , Oh Ramu , a small wound ,
Does not hurt but over time , it starts making you feel bad..”
“I have met very many old people who do remember ,
A small word of hurt told by their brother when they were infants.,
Over time this thought becomes a huge hurt in their mind,
And they would start shouting at everyone when they think about it”
“We have to learn to forget such things immediately,
And when the thought comes , you should say , “silly”.
And if you do this for every small unhealed small wound,
Made by silly incidents, you would become a normal man.”
Ramu tried and soon there was nothing in his mind ,
Which caused hurt and when his wife again left a vessel on the table,
He used to take it and replace it where it was and tell his wife,
“Even if it had been there , no harm is there , but I thought I would help you”