Seeing Arundathi and Dhruva at 12
noon on marriage day – Is there a need?
By
P.R.Ramachander
There is a
function in the marriage when the iyer groom points out Arundathi star who was an epitome of virtue and Bride points out The Druva star (Pole star) which is famous for piety and constancy .
When I got
married (47 years back) this
happened after dusk , when the stars have appeared
in the sky. Our priest
simply pointed a portion of the sky and asked me to ask my wife “Have you seen Arundathi?” and later my new wife asked me , “Have you
seen Dhruva?” Since I knew the place where
these stars would be I was aghast
when the priest asked us to look
at some other direction.. Several HOmas
need to be done and completed before night.
Times have changed. No one wants to have a two
session marriage -morning and after dusk nowadays. So the Vadhyar is told
that everything should be over by lunch
time (poor vadhyar) and so iin several
marriages that I attend nowadays the “Looking at Arundathi
and Dhruva” is conduced around
12 noon.
No stars would be visible anywhere but still the bride asks “Have you seen Dhruva?” and groom asks “Have
you seen Arundathi?”
In one of the
recent marriages I attended , the Vadhyar
did the ceremony in side the marriage hall. With great
curiosity I asked him , “Is it Okay?”
and he replied “Any way they are
not going to see any star outside
there. So I thought , let me finish the formality comfortably here itself?”
Oh my God, When we cannot do it, Why not we drop it
all together?
1 comment:
It has become a ritual which no one notices. However, I am not sure how to avoid these rituals and if so, where to stop. Vadhyars also are happy if you relieve them as soon as possible. Guests are waiting just to give an envelope and rush for lunch. So, it will be tough time for those of us who love rituals conducted with meaning.
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